When my husband and I made this pivot in our marriage, it truly eased a lot of stress between us when it came to navigating difficult conversations. Have a listen, and let me now in the comments if something landed for you.

In the hardest moments in my marriage I have always found that God's perspective on things is always completely different to mine. So - how do we tap in to that? I share briefly on it in this video. Hope this encourages you!

Ever heard people say things like "Marriage should be 50/50"? Even split - right down the middle? I can tell you that 50/50 has RARELY existed in my marriage. I loved how Brene Brown unpacked it, drawing from her own marriage, and this really landed with me. She talked about how she and her husband identify the "out of 50 - where are you at today" when they'd get home. (In terms of patience, kindness, energy etc). He would say "I'm at a 20 today" and she would say "no worries! I'll cover for you. I can bring the 80". Other times when times were especially tough - and they'd both be in the 20's/30's re energy, patience, kindness - they'd negotiate what each other needs. She added that "A marriage is not 50/50. A partnership works when they can carry your "20" or you can carry theirs. And when you are both at a 20 - you have a plan on how to navigate that." This perspective lifted the pressure I'd put on myself to be at "100" because that's what we're supposed to be right? Nope. Let me know if this post busted a myth for you too, or if you have a different view? 👇

I have no doubt at some point in your faith journey you've cried out to God in prayer "God - where are you?" I know I sure have - on many occasions! I want to encourage you with Psalm 77. In this Psalm, David pours his heart out - just being very real with God. "I poured out my complaint to you, God. I lifted up my voice, shouting out for help." That was me. I sure know what it feels like. But here's what David did that totally changed my perspective. In verse 11 he writes "Yet, I could never forget all your miracles, my God, as I remember all your wonders of old..." His circumstances didn't change. Instead, he shifted his focus from the complaint....to God's miracles...REMINDING himself of God's faithfulness and goodness. THAT was the takeaway for me, and I share it with you today. To remind ourselves of God's goodness in the middle of when things seem uncertain. When you have some time, have a read of the Psalm, then let me know which verse resonated the most with you in the comments below. ❤️‍🔥👇

Sharing this to create space for some reflection. One of the BIGGEST realisations I had when my marriage hit crisis point, was how much my sense of identity was attached to the title of "Wife". I'd spent over 20-years building my sense of meaning, and value, and identity in that title. It was (and is) a dream to carve out a life that was centred on building and growing family - grounded in God. Here is what I realised though. I am not ONLY a wife. I am ALSO a woman of God that God designed and called and destined for His purposes. Being a wife is just a few stitches within the much bigger tapestry of the life God has planned for me. Not the ONLY thing. So the quote here from Jamie Winship (and if you are not familiar with him - YouTube is the answer to that) is a compassionate nudge to reminder you of this truth: There is no end to the depths of who God made you to be! 💞💎 And with that nudge - follows this question: What dream do you still carry in your heart that you are yet to give expression to?