Inside "The Bible in One Year" reading for Sunday the 21st of June 2026 - the first passage to read from the Old Testament came from the first two chapters of Job. To be honest with you - for a moment I flinched a little knowing that over the coming days I'd be going through this particular book. Not the easiest one to read through. But I had a flash-of-a-thought race across my mind, to look for the gold in the story. That's EXACTLY what happened. I found gold right away in the words, and I thought of you. The message that stood out to me was the value God places on maintaining our integrity DESPITE the circumstances that have happened, or are happening around us. Grieving for what was lost. Grieving for what no longer existed. Grieving for what seemingly would never be as it once was. I remember going through that when my husband became just a shell of himself. I felt guilty for grieving. "I shouldn't be grieving - he's not dead!" And yet - grief was there. Perhaps you've been wrestling with feeling grief, but at the same time confused too. Let the grief move through you rather than push it down. Then - just as Job did - worship God in the face of it. That is one way that Job maintained his integrity. He refused to blame God for all that had happened. The second thing Job did to maintain his integrity can be found in Chapter 2:10. "Should we accept only good things from the hand of God and never anything bad?" Job's response to everything wasn't denial or numbness. He grieves fully. This isn't a man with no feelings. It's a man whose identity was never built on his circumstances in the first place. If your marriage is in a season where nothing is resolving the way you prayed it would; or If your marriage ended - without the things you prayed for being resolved; know that your integrity isn't to be measured by whether he/she changes (or changed). It's measured by whether you stay true to you. Becoming unshakeable doesn't mean nothing shakes you. It means you know exactly who you are and WHOSE you are when it does. I had to learn that the hard way in the middle of the shaking.

Can I tell you something I think we don't say enough? The silence can feel heavier than the arguments. I had a client once who'd been living with her husband's emotional distance for so long that she didn't even register it as pain anymore. She told me, "I got really good at not needing anything anymore." Like that was a badge of honour. It wasn't. It was armour. And underneath it, she was exhausted. There's research that backs up what so many of us have already experienced in some form or another — women in emotionally distant marriages often carry more chronic stress and emotional strain than women in marriages with open conflict. Wow. At least conflict means something is happening between you. Silence can feel like nothing is happening at all — except we slowly go quiet inside too. With my client, it took one simple question to crack it all open. I asked her, "But how are YOU doing in all of this?" The emotions came out. Because no one had asked her that in years. Not even herself. So I'm going to ask you the same thing. Not how's your marriage. Not what's he doing or not doing. How are YOU doing in all of this? This is exactly why this little community exists — not to fix your marriage, but to make sure YOU have somewhere to actually answer that question honestly. And if you're craving a deeper conversation about it, that's what my coaching is for too. Sometimes you just need someone to sit with you in it for a while, then help you shift your focus towards practical steps forward.

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I had a client once who described their experience like this: "I can feel the moment he checks out. It's like a light switch. And every time it happens, I go into a panic — did I say something wrong? Is he done with us? What did I do?" Sound familiar? Here's what I've learned — both from the research and from sitting with women in this exact experience. That internal panic? It's not a weakness. It's our attachment system doing exactly what it was designed to do. Dr Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, describes this response as an "attachment protest" — our nervous system registers a threat to connection and sounds the alarm. When I read that, it felt like she was reading my mail! Gosh. The problem is, that alarm response often makes things worse. We pursue, we push, we panic — and the already-flooded partner withdraws further. So what actually helps in that moment? Three things I coach women through (and myself by the way!): 1️⃣Name what's happening in your body before you respond. Tight chest? Racing thoughts? That's your signal to pause, not act. 2️⃣ Create a neutral bridge rather than a pursuit. Something simple like: "I can see you need some space. I'm here when you're ready." No pressure. No punishment. Just presence. 3️⃣ Redirect your energy inward. What do YOU need right now that isn't dependent on his response? Go meet that need. This isn't about suppressing your feelings. It's about not letting the flood carry you somewhere you'll regret. Which of these three feels hardest for you? 👇 Perhaps you have a method you can add to the list that's helped you in these moments? If so - would love to hear that too.

I want to welcome and honour our newest community members. @Mb Bee 💐 @Joleen Norstrud ✨ @Renee Lynn 🥳 @Karie Hudgins 😀 @Oma Ekekwe 🎉 @Charrel Spoon 🙌 @Leah Davis 🌟 @Becky Holbach Each one of us in this community are at various stages in our lives, our faith, and for some - in our marriage. ALL of us have experienced our share of trials along the way. Perhaps you are going through a trial right now. I want each of you to know that this place, this community, is here for you. By being here, you've put your hand up to say "I'm ready to take the next step..." Bless you! Praying for each one of you. If you haven't already done so yet, explore the classroom to find the current resources available. Find a post that resonates, pop in a comment to share your thoughts/views. Welcome.