After 63 years of Lived Experience, I have some things to say: If you are younger than that you could: 1. Ignore the old fart and scroll by 🤭 2. Keep figuring it out for yourself 😳 3. Stop a while an note a W.A.P: Wisdom Access Point 🤗 I saw one of those posts today: “15 Rules to Become Unstoppable.” And the funny thing is, I agreed with quite a lot of it. Move your body. Keep learning. Protect your peace. Help others. Keep going. All good stuff. But one word kept bothering me: UNSTOPPABLE. Is that really what we’re trying to become? Because sometimes stopping is exactly the right thing to do. Sometimes we need to rest. Sometimes we need to listen to the critic, because underneath the noise there might be signal. Sometimes we need to admit we were wrong. Sometimes we need another human being. Sometimes we need to change direction. And sometimes the bravest thing we can do is let go. So I rewrote the rules. 😂 Not 15 Rules to Become Unstoppable. 15 Rules for Human Expansion. And then, inevitably, that produced another list: 15 Rules I Stopped Following to Become More Human. Because I’m becoming increasingly convinced that Human Expansion isn’t about endlessly adding more to ourselves. More discipline. More achievement. More optimisation. More productivity. Perhaps some of it is subtraction. Putting down expectations we’ve outgrown. Recognising what is already there. Choosing what still serves us. And making room for what comes next. PURPOSE → ACTION → REFLECTION → ADJUSTMENT → CONTRIBUTION I don’t particularly want to become unstoppable. I want to become more fully human. 🌿 What about you? What do you want to become?

Day 1 was great. Thank you Aaron! This is me before my father died. He took his own life after bouts with bipolar depression before it was understood, and when mental illness was more stigmatized than today. In order to cope with such a tragic loss, and find a new partner, my mother suppressed her emotions, including all the grief—and to maintain her love, I did the same. The new guy she married was emotionally and verbally abusive to her and to me and my younger sister. In order to survive, I disconnected from my self. I held my grief and my anger inside, and adopted a pattern of adapting myself to who others needed me to be that stayed with me into adulthood. I built a career by making myself valuable and suppressing my authentic self—and it took me all the way to the top of my field. But then I got fired, and it was the most devastating thing that ever happened to me (in my adult life). Now I’m moving through the pain and the anger I didn’t know was inside of me, so that I can become my authentic self and create the life I came here to lead. And it’s been the most difficult experience of my life. My biggest takeaway from today was to practice seeing the pattern and accepting it, which just leads me to want to grieve for what that boy never got to experience and how much he suffered. I have to manifest my first client for my new consulting practice and a check in the next 2 weeks, because I am running out of money, and so part of me is freaking the f- out and screaming at myself to hustle and make it happen. Screaming at myself about what a lazy useless poc I am. All the old patterns, which I sometimes have to work hard at being able to see. But another part of me is telling me to keep healing the grief because on the other side of it I’ll know exactly what to do, and manifest my first client without hustling. That they’re already on their way to me. I can see so clearly that the pattern is believing I have to adapt myself in order to get love (or money from a client). To get my needs met.