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Zylina Rose

My 8y old decided she wanted to be called Zylina. Her name. Her entire life people have called her Z or ZZ- the name her brother could pronounce at her birth. She doesn’t like ZZ & wants to be called by her given name.

Zylina has a simple request, met by extreme backlash from every adult in our circle. “Do you know how hard it is for me to change?!? I’ve called you that your whole life.” & They proceeded to guilt & shame- a CHILD. That is insight.

I got angry. There’s several layers here. CHANGE is hard- obviously. But these people expect us to change everything about ourselves- to fit their delusions- & can’t call a child by her name. She stated a clear, reasonable, basic boundary- & was attacked. Sickening, but very symbolic. Now I see how my past story was born.

I told her to stand her ground. That she doesn’t have to answer to ZZ. To say, “My name is Zylina, my boundary deserves respect.” (& to call them PP if they don’t stop🤭) I told all my kids, this is a perfect example of the toxicity in our family. You’re expected to change for them and shamed for having a boundary. Thats not a preference- it’s literally her birth right- her voice is being smashed to silence. Grooming. Sickening. Exactly what happened to me.

Except: I didn’t have ME to stand up for her (myself). Zylina does. She’s got both of us & we will NOT be silenced. Choices- repetition- insanity. I choose Love. I choose change. I choose a new foundation for my kids- a safe container where my inner child gets to grow too. They’re out numbered now. Love wins💖

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Zylina Rose