๐ How to Handle "Yes-Men" Who Mean "No":
A Masterclass in Clinical Accountability Weโve all dealt with the "Andrew" type. They promise the world on Monday, give you "The Word of a Man" on Tuesday, and by Wednesday, theyโre buried under "big projects" and excuses. I recently had to deliver a "Slap" to a client who has been in a cycle of broken promises since October. Here is the context of that exchange and the breakdown of the Relationship Matrix in action. ๐งฉ The Matrix Framework (A Teaser) The Matrix is a diagnostic tool used to measure a man's state of being. It operates on four stages: โข Stage 0: Surviving/Whining โ Driven by comfort and avoiding reality. โข Stage 1: Easily Replaced โ Lacks unique value or leadership. โข Stage 2: Self-Sufficient โ Takes full ownership of his word. โข Stage 3: The Elite โ Operating at peak efficiency. The Exchange: The "Slap" vs. The "Rebel" The Slap (My Message): Andrew, weโre done with the excuses. Your words are empty and, quite frankly, pathetic. You are a man who canโt be trusted with his word, and that makes you a liar... You are currently a Burden to everyone in your life. A man who lacks integrity is a weight, not a leader. This is the cancer destroying your life and your relationships. The Rebel Reaction (His Response): I'm gonna be very abundantly clear with you. I understand that you wanna work together... but I'm busy organizing two big projects right now and I don't have time to text you back-and-forth... I will give you a call and I will set the record straight... This is where I'm driving the line. 1. Identify the "Loser Insecurity" When he claims he's "too busy organizing projects" to settle a debt he promised days ago, he is triggering the Loser Insecurity. โข The Reality: He uses fake credentials (the "projects") to hide a lack of production. If he were actually a high-level producer, his word would be bankable. โข The Fix: Stop respecting "busy" talk. If a man has been "about to blow up" for 4 months but can't keep a simple commitment, he is a Burden, not a mogul.