I found out my nursing school is closing and although there are options (not set in stone fully yet) I feel like it’s triggered my teen into thinking my world is uncertain and I am unsafe and everything is crumbling…. The reason is based on funding and a lot of it has to do with the current administration and basically there’s going to be alot of this happening national wide which ties into my fear response…I felt very good and felt secure and like I was in a good place….Now the uncertainty is removing my newfound safety blanket and I’m spiraling with the possibilities and also feeling this deep gut feeling that my life trajectory is about to change and I don’t want it to… Finding it hard to keep my FA online and talk to my activated littles knowing this is more about the state of the world and how it’s affecting everyone(me) so deeply 😭😭😭😭

Requesting coaching around the complicated living situation with my mom. For context, my mom lives with us currently (white woman, boomer, very enmeshed). We have been working toward separating for quite some time now with a deadline placed in the Fall/Winter of this year. There have been many attempts to get her to do the work with little success, making continuing to cohabitate a huge strain. She's just shared that she's been fired from her job. Without getting into all the details, this makes it highly unlikely she will be able to support herself without help due to her disabilities and declining health. I'm struggling to stay with the plan. My stomach feels like it's dropping through the floor. My teen and tween are terrified of being trapped with her forever. But my wounded child is heartbroken at the idea of her being potentially homeless. The guilt around not wanting to caretake her is intense. My FA is keeping the boundary firm, not allowing my emotional turmoil to land on her and also not stepping in to soothe her anxiety either. But I'm struggling to figure out how to handle this without either caving to the pressure to rescue/solve it for her, or being callous.