I think one of the better things about getting older is realising just how many things you don't actually have to care about. My list is getting longer… - Uncomfortable shoes. I was once known for my love of high heels. Those days are well and truly behind me. Nowadays, comfort wins every single time and I'm not sad about it! - Saying yes just because I feel like I should. A polite no is perfectly acceptable. - Dressing for my age. What does that even mean? If I like it, I'll wear it. - Staying up late because everyone else is. Sleep wins. - What everyone thinks of me. I won't pretend I've completely mastered this one, but I'm a LOT better at it than I was 20 years ago. There are definitely some advantages to getting older. You know yourself better, you're a bit more comfortable saying what you want (and don't want), and some things that once seemed terribly important, well they just… aren't anymore. So let's hear yours - what are you officially too old to care about? Funny, serious or completely ridiculous answers all welcome. 👇

What would it say? *my answer is in the comments 😋

I only recently came across it… and honestly, it explains energy management better than almost anything I’ve heard. The idea is simple: Imagine you wake up each day with a limited number of spoons. Each spoon represents energy. Getting dressed might cost a spoon. Working costs spoons. Stress costs spoons. Appointments cost spoons. Even socialising can cost spoons sometimes. For people living with chronic illness, burnout, anxiety, caregiving stress, or just mentally overloaded seasons of life… the spoons run out quickly. And I think one of the hardest things is that other people often can’t SEE it. They see you smiling. They see you functioning. But they don’t see the constant calculations happening in your head: “If I do this today… will I crash tomorrow?” “Do I have enough energy left for this conversation?” “Is this worth spending my last spoon on?” Honestly, I think a lot of us could benefit from being more aware of our spoons. Not just physically… mentally too. Because some people aren’t lazy. They’re overloaded. Some people aren’t antisocial. They’re exhausted. And sometimes resilience isn’t pushing harder. Sometimes it’s learning how to protect your energy better. What drains your spoons the fastest these days?

Something I see all the time is people blaming themselves for 'not being motivated enough' or 'not having enough willpower'... who's guilty of saying that!? But honestly? Most of the time, motivation isn’t the problem at all. We’re very quick to make it a personal flaw. This might sound like... 'I just need to try harder', 'I need more discipline', or 'I should be better at this by now'. But what if the issue isn’t willpower… it’s capacity? If you’re exhausted, emotionally stretched, hormonally challenged, under constant stress, or juggling a lot in life, your nervous system is already working overtime. Asking it to rely on sheer willpower on top of that is like trying to run a marathon on empty. I’ve learned this the hard way. There have been plenty of times where I wanted to do the thing… but my body or mind simply didn’t have the reserves. And beating myself up never helped. What helped was stepping back and asking better questions. Not 'what’s wrong with me?', but more 'what’s going on for me right now?' Because consistency doesn’t come from forcing yourself through resistance. It comes from creating conditions that actually support you, like enough rest, realistic expectations, the right kind of movement, emotional support, and sometimes a bit of flexibility instead of pressure. So if you’re feeling stuck right now, try this reframe: Maybe you don’t need more motivation. Maybe you need more support, more space, or a different approach. So, I’m curious… What do you usually blame when things don’t stick - motivation, discipline, or something else? And what changes when you stop blaming yourself and start looking at the bigger picture? Let’s talk about it.

What's one small thing you do to reset your mindset when negativity creeps in? This question came in from a community member and I thought it would be a great idea to create a list... what's your go to strategy?