Yesterday during the Cohort 3 Q&A we had a fascinating discussion about dopamine, procrastination, sleep, focus, social media, Netflix binges, gaming, and why we sometimes struggle to do the things we actually want to do. Multiple members shared that when they reduce the constant stimulation for a few days, they: - Sleep better - Feel calmer - Focus easier - Stop procrastinating as much - Feel more connected to themselves So I'm considering organizing a 3-Day Dopamine Detox Challenge for the ADHD Harmony community. We'd check in together each day and share wins, struggles, insights, and what changes when the noise disappears. I'm curious... Who would actually join? Let me know in the comments. What would be the hardest thing for you to give up for 3 days? 😅

Hi tribe ❤️ The 5-day challenge and conversations with Sage have given me so much clarity — and more hope than I’ve felt in a very long time. Thank you so much @Jim Ebbelaar 🙏 For years I’ve struggled with stress, severe burnout, and nervous system overload, which will probably end in disability pension or a flex job. (I honestly don’t even know whether to write “unfortunately” or “hopefully,” because peace of mind is probably my greatest need right now — and I’ve been stuck in uncertainty about my work life for years. That in itself is deeply stressful.) No matter how much I rest, it rarely feels like enough to calm the constant feeling in my nervous system that a saber-toothed tiger is right behind me — ready to leap out with demands I can no longer handle. My tolerance for stress and pressure has been steadily declining for years and now feels close to zero. For a long time I thought it was caused by my work as a social worker. But even when I earned a bachelor’s degree in History a few years ago — because I thought I “just” needed a new direction — the pattern continued. And now, after a year and a half on sick leave and being exempt from the demands of the job market, I’ve somehow managed to continue the same downward spiral in my private life as well. I now see it is because the pattern is rooted in defense mechanisms and masks that have become part of my identity — and that it is the root of almost all my struggles. The burnout, the weight issues, the lack of self-love, the difficulty creating and maintaining a healthy lifestyle … The pattern is built on beliefs like: I am only worthy if I give EVERYTHING to others. And I’m not allowed to feel happy until everyone I love is happy. (And preferably also everyone I simply like. And people I don’t even know. And all the animals too.) From that place, self-love and self-care don’t just feel selfish — they feel like a real threat to my entire existence. Because this was a survival strategy created very early in life to protect me from being abandoned or unloved.

Anybody else in perimenopause? I’m 42 and undiagnosed (in both ADHD and menopause lol) but feel like there is no deny it now that my hormones all over the place and the masks have slipped! (Didn’t know I was masking but feel like a really need to get to know myself and be true to myself in this stage of life)

Today is not going the way i planned. Im having so many issues with leaving my place. I dont get why, I have rewards set up in place so once I do an errand I have something fun to reward myself after and it isnt working to well. Its 4 pm here now and I have done nothing productive but organize my phone and fb a little. Ugh I need to get motivated today.

I am so many interests and hobbies that have come and gone and come again in somw cases over the years. I would love to know the diversity of hobbies that others have. Mine include: - Astrology - Board game playing and collecting - Personal development - extensive courses, books, workshops, online etc - Property investment - Renovating - Spirituality - card reading/studying/tarot - Breathwork/meditating