Recording Link (good for 60 days) https://us06web.zoom.us/rec/share/C2s4KWMUvk3y6lu21vPdXebM4TAgjfImxFoBgPNRT4xjgH0YCS-hiQbFvEt6AyY4.uIfcdnoQhkxq2I4_ Passcode: 1hyriF?i Team Updates and Leadership Progress The team discussed personal updates, including Michael's decision not to ethic label a text message to a colleague returning from maternity leave, which Doug praised for demonstrating growing emotional recognition skills. Terese shared her plans to launch an email project on February 17th and practice a conversation with her brother using ChatGPT. Pegotty described her positive experience connecting with people on her birthday and anniversary, while Rina mentioned the relief of completing the formatting for her book manuscript, which is now in the final stages before publication. Doug shared his progress on "Empathy Leadership," noting that the developmental work is complete and the book is moving toward copy editing and production Dimensions of Communication in Divorce Doug led a discussion on communication, particularly in the context of divorce, emphasizing the complexity of the concept. Pegotty shared her challenges in creating a two-hour module on communication, highlighting the multiple dimensions involved, including conflict and emotional intelligence. Doug and Tallison discussed the importance of internal communication and emotional awareness, with Tallison suggesting that communication with one's higher self is crucial. The group explored various aspects of communication, from personal dialogue to professional negotiations, underscoring the multifaceted nature of the topic. Divorce Coach Competency Requirements The group discussed the skills and competencies needed for divorce coaches, including safety, clarity, accountability, de-escalation, and emotional management. Michael shared his experience with managing meetings and emphasized the importance of strong leadership to prevent discussions from becoming unproductive. Jim mentioned his thoughts on emotional development and the creation of a spectrum to illustrate wisdom and emotional competence, referencing Brene Brown's work and concepts like alexithymia.

Today was another really engaging call. A couple of things that stood out for me: The Life Values Survey challenged a lot of the usual generational stereotypes. It suggested that things like work ethic are tied more to where people are in life right now than to what generation they’re labeled as. Also, in mediation, if someone gets hostile, the idea isn’t to call them out or shut them down. Instead, go back to the ground rules set at the beginning and affect label what they’re feeling.

Use this thread to share your wins with the Parent's 90-Second Reset. Which "You" statement had the biggest impact this week?

New Members Introduce Themselves The meeting began with introductions, where Tallison, Rina, and Terese shared their backgrounds and reasons for joining the group. Rina, who recently joined through divorce coaching, expressed skepticism but found value in the program. Doug welcomed everyone and mentioned plans to record the session. The group discussed their connections with Doug and their interest in nonviolent communication and healing modalities. Affect Labeling for Conflict Resolution The group discussed the importance of affect labeling in managing emotional situations, with Doug emphasizing that addressing feelings through feelings is more effective than logical approaches. Michael shared his challenge with managing conflicts between two nonprofits and received guidance from Doug on using affect labeling in email communications to de-escalate tensions. Rina mentioned her experience with managing conflicts in her Toastmasters group and expressed the need to apply affect labeling more effectively. Doug also shared his progress on preparing for a TEDx talk, which he has been refining with the help of AI tools. Family Business Dispute Resolution Strategies The group discussed strategies for handling family business disputes, with Doug advising Terese to present facts and concerns to shareholders without advocating for a solution, and to use ChatGPT to refine her communication style. Doug shared his experience of being affect-labeled by AI, while Tallison recounted a reconciliation with a former client who had previously disagreed with his COVID-19 views. Understanding Use Statements in Language The group discussed the use of "use statements" in language, with Jim presenting a Google Sheets document that demonstrates how these statements are used in compliments, criticisms, identities, and other contexts. Jim explained that use statements are natural and common, using second-person frames and pronouns, and highlighted their effectiveness compared to I-statements. Doug praised Jim's work and encouraged others to make their own copies of the document for reference.

Use this thread to discuss the Teacher’s De-Escalation Script. Have you tried it in a real confrontation yet? What was the "Gobsmacked" reaction like? https://www.skool.com/de-escalate/classroom/1ac1b963?md=185afd07af2249259886849f9b39b5e0