Let’s tell the truth. Most of us don’t actually want love. Not at first. We want to be chosen. To finally hear someone say, “You’re it. You’re enough.” Somewhere along the way, our nervous system learned a dangerous equation: Chosen = Safe. Desired = Valuable. Wanted = Worthy. So we chase what feels like redemption. The unavailable one. The complicated one. The one we have to earn. Because if we can get them to choose us, maybe the old wound will finally close. But that’s not love. That’s performance. And performance always ends in exhaustion. Real love won’t demand your proof. It will ask for your presence. So I’m curious... Where have you noticed this performance show up in your relationships? Do you still feel the pull to be “chosen,” or have you started to choose differently? Drop your reflections below ... I’ll be reading every one.

Hi Everyone, WHOM AM I? My name is Okon Medekong I am currently working on resolving my inner choas from a 5yrs ongoing litigation process with our bankers as my business partner and I were gaslighted and framed-up for fraud. The trauma and underlying stress induced anxiety from my previous job where I wasn't giving my best caused me to spiral into severe depression At the brink of tipping point, my little effort at applying self efficacy and Grace earned me a scholarship to train as a breathwork facilitator at the international School of Alchemy of Breath (AoB), Tuckskany. Delving into my emotional world was like opening a can of worms - it was both scary and life transforming. Facing and understanding my deeply unresolved beliefs and fears around intimacy filled me with hope and empowerment to look inwards. My immediate goal is to become a love leader with the skills and experience to build a healthy relationship with the right partner MY GOAL? I am a spark of the divine and lover of Christ - sharing the truth about the gospel and being of service through breathwork I am so grateful at the opportunity of learning from Matus Hanidzair. WHAT'S WEIRD ABOUT ME. I have never experienced the joy of intimacy from a place of wholeness.