The Attachment Trap that leads to a breakup
When a breakup happens, it’s tempting to play the blame game. I know I did. After my wife broke up with me 3 years ago, I pointed fingers in every direction but my own. The problem with that? The moment you decide someone else is responsible for your happiness, you hand them the steering wheel of your life. And that’s dangerous. Here’s how it usually goes: She was drawn to you not just because of you, but because of your whole life. Your goals, your hobbies, your friends, your spark. You brought her into a balanced, vibrant world. Then, slowly, piece by piece, you started giving it up to “be with her.” At first she asked for more time, and you gave it. She thought she wanted it. But as the pie chart of your life shrank to just her, something essential got lost. She felt it. You felt it. Attraction faded. Resentment grew. It wasn’t her fault. It wasn’t your fault. But it was both of your responsibility. The good news? Attraction isn’t gone forever. The path back is not about becoming someone new. It’s about reclaiming the man you were when you were most alive. Balanced. Focused. Enjoying life. That’s what made you magnetic then, and it’s what makes you magnetic now. 👉 Where in your life have you “shrunk the pie chart” for someone else? 👉 What’s one piece you’d love to reclaim? Share it here. This is how we rebuild together.