Been quiet here for a while. But after 3 years, 20+ of my own events in different cities, and more social reps than I can count, here are 10 things that I now see as non negotiables. 1. Instagram is even more important than I previously thought. I know it's the one thing that gets repeated the most - but even that does not encapsulate how important Instagram really is. I've seen many guys ruined their reputation with Instagram and I have seen a couple that do it extremely well. It has opened many doors for me in dating as well as meeting high value men in my city, if you have not fixed your Instagram, I don't know what you're doing. Important notice: Do not get caught up in constantly thinking "ohh my instagram is not good enough yet so i cant go out meeting people..." Bullshit. I've seen guys get stuck in the fixing phase rather than doing it in parallel. 2. List building is a living document. At the beginning I invited a ton of girls, but never really dared inviting the hottest ones. The biggest realization was that the hotter the girl is the friendlier they are and the more open they are to coming to your event,. The six and sevens are usually the ones that are the less thankful and flaky. Dare to go to the top. 3. Be careful where you spend your time. The more you get known in your city the more people are going to want your time. A lot of people love talking, especially the ones that are "visionaries". This is why we don't listen to the words. Always look at what the person has accomplished rather than what they are planning to accomplish. It's fine if they are at least taking action into the right direction. 4. Compliance is the absolute social cheat code. This took me the longest to understand fully. I used to focus way too much on building Attraction rather than just gathering compliance. If you get this down, you're good to go in all things. 5. You get punished for your insecurities. The world does not reward overly shy people as Tai Lopez would say. This could not be more true. Regardless of what you are insecure about, it really doesn't matter. Most people are completely indulged in their own ego and that's OK. Do whatever you have to to convince yourself that you're good the way you are and put yourself out there. When I say punished, I mean that you are going to get left behind and people start doing things without you - simply because you don't have enough mental real estate for them, you don't get remembered.

I am not sure if I am taking the concept of not displaying interest too far. Bilzerian really drives the concept of not showing girls interest or chasing girls. However I may be going to an extreme based on my lack of a perfect set up like he has. Lacking a set up where girls are coming to me I will have to show some kind of interest to get girls attention if I am in public. I am seeing a pattern where I am taking to girls in public but, I don't ask for numbers or anything ever. I have talked to a few girls several times and I see them once every few weeks, but I am not sure how to transition to hanging out with them without showing some level of interest in them. Help me out here I think I am being a little autistic about the concept of not showing interest.

Guys, y'all absolutely have to read this whole entire book. It's academic and uses elevated vocabulary, but it's a great exploration into what the fuck is going on, and what you can do to solve your problems. It is a little excessive on a few long running metaphors, but they accurately serve to explain the concepts. If you've finished I'd love to discuss it with you.

Hey guys I have noticed that each time I see a pretty girl I over analyze talking to her and I know I am a very good looking guy ( I am 6’3 and have a 6 pack almost ) I have heard women whenever they see me shirtless say “ He’s so fine” but I don’t ever think they are talking to me .

Here’s a video breakdown to ALL suggested books in our community. Every book has a bullet breakdown (for speed reading) and a YouTube link that takes you to multiples YouTube channels that specifically breakdown self-development books by transforming then into videos. With this, you can invest a couple minutes to grasp key ideas and get to know quickly if will address your curiosity. Then, you prioritize your readings to maximize results. Every source has a narrative. If you dislike one, just search the book title in another channel that you think resonates with you the best and drop in the comments. If you know different sources, comment below. Disclaimer: By no means this will substitute hours of reading, self-reflection and decent feedback loop for your actions. (You can fast speed videos 2x for faster results. Remember: you’re skimming – nothing will ever substitute reading.) Comment below the books that made the difference for you! Take ActioN! Let’s get to business: How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bVODS3tnJWM • Enhanced communication skills • Building lasting relationships • Improved influence and persuasion • Increased self-confidence • Effective conflict resolution Start With Why by Simon Sinek: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wb8KpHqU5tg&t=67s • Clarified sense of purpose and direction • Increased team inspiration and motivation • Strengthened organizational alignment • Enhanced customer loyalty • Creation of a more meaningful work environment The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fZWOzrTOmIc • Insights into male-female dynamics • Empowerment for personal growth • Improved understanding of dating behaviors • Enhanced social interactions • Strategies for modern relationship challenges Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson: