There’s a story here, the moral of which ultimately is, shut up and fix your fucking Instagram. But some of it may be helpful to fellow early-stage folks here. And it led me to a question I want to run by you. Tomorrow, I’m off to get a haircut. I go to a local hairdresser, woman-run and staffed. Been going to them since I moved into the area in March 2024. I’m on first name basis with most of the staff and the lady who runs the salon has been trying to set me up with local ladies for a little bit, so if I have any female team mates at the moment, they’re her (I did make sure to tell her recently that while I'm always happy to meet someone new, I'm sticking to keeping things platonic for now). A while ago, I had the idea of doing an Instagram thing with her and the girls at the salon, and after I got stuck into OMD last week, the idea occurred again – I mean, I get along with most of the girls and my regular dresser, and it’d be good social media marketing practice, so why not? The salon owner doesn't mind, and it might be a way to get some preselection. Thankfully, the counter-idea that I’m their customer and not a friend with whom they’re choosing to hang out with, especially in the salon, put a needle to that mental balloon today. Sartain says over and over again that he never pays the girls at his events and in his photos to spend time in his company, and I realised that I don’t want a whiff of transaction anywhere near a preselection photo. (So lay the ground to let pre-sel occur organically by developing the “mogul” archetype in your IG grid right now, Rob.) One thing did occur to me, though. As I currently understand, when pre-selection occurs, we never pay the girls to be there or pay their way into a party; at most, we use the power of bringing a group of girls to an event to get us all in the door and potentially a round or two of drinks. We should not be aiming to go near “provider” mode unless and until we (after a good while of friend-zone social interaction) decide to Ask A Girl Out (and they say yes).

"Controlling" - he wouldn't let you be a 304. "Verbally Abusive" - he voiced and enforced accountability and his standards. "Emotionally Unavailable" - he wouldn't argue with her to satisfy her emotional stimulation needs. If you do decide to stimulate, make sure you're always the cause (you're consciouly triggering her) and never the effect (she's triggering you). "We Grew Aprart" - her single friends more than likely convinced her to want to be single. Birds of a feather, flock together. There will always be exceptions, but the exceptions cannot disprove the rule.

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I use to be the guy always rushing to txt girls back and drooling over every single precious match I’d get on a dating app. After I STARTED to fix my mother fucking instagram (thanks for everyone that gave me shit for not taking action on this) I get about 5 matches a day and legit leave girls on read because I’m busy and don’t care to get back to every girl that messages me. Total perspective change after getting tons of girls in my DMs like I’m back in high school being one of the cool kids again. Thanks Mike, you’re the BEST!

Hi, I’m seriously considering getting a virtual assistant to swipe on my behalf on IG and dating apps. Does anyone have any experience in doing this, and can point me in the right direction on how to find one? Instagram is easy - you just give them your password and send messages "as you." However, dating apps are much more tricky. The main things I’m concerned about are logistical and technological things, such as: -I’m assuming they have to download the apps, and make a profile on THEIR phone for Tinder/Bumble/Hinge, correct? Or is there a way to bypass this and make an account online? -They will likely be in a different country, so how do we fix the location issue? I think we need to set them for “roaming” location? Please let me know any resources/guides you have.