I’m in a chat group with eight electrical contractor business owners. We’ve been talking for five or six years. CRM software. Pricing. Systems. The usual. A few months ago I started bringing something different to the table. I started asking them about their people. Not how to get more out of them. Just, are you actually watching them? Noticing when something’s off. When the energy shifts. When a guy who’s always loud goes quiet. Almost every single one of them said the same thing. I wish I had paid more attention. I wish I had actually listened. I wish I had taken it seriously. Most of us think we’re present. We’re in the room. We’re watching. But there’s a difference between watching and actually seeing. Between hearing words and actually listening. And we’re so wired to jump in and fix things that we blow right past what’s actually going on. I’ve done it with my guys at work. Done it with Kim. She comes home with something on her mind and I’m already solving it before she gets through the door. That’s not presence. That’s just impatience dressed up as helpfulness. Done it with Maddie too. Watching her struggle through something new and having to sit on my hands because she doesn’t need me to solve it. She needs to feel it and get through it herself. That’s the hardest thing. Removing the need to fix. And just being present enough to actually notice what’s in front of you. So the question this week is simple. Who are you watching right now that you’re not actually seeing?

I want to take a minute to say something I should have said more often. Thank you. You showed up early. Before the paid membership, before the full build-out, before any of this had momentum. You joined when it was just an idea and a guy who believed men in the trades deserved a better conversation about what they carry. That means something to me. So here's what I want you to know: your access is free. For life. That's not changing. You were here first and you'll always be taken care of because of it. What IS changing is that Anchored & Ready is going paid very soon. New members coming in after the launch will pay $35/month to be part of this community. The Coffee and Clarity calls, the resources, everything we're building here. You get all of it. Free. Forever. Something bigger is coming on June 15. Stay close. --- Now. Tomorrow's Coffee and Clarity call. We're talking about the big scary goal. The one you haven't told many people about. The one you put on the back burner when life got loud and somehow never picked back up. Most of us do this. We get deep into the day job, the family, the grind, and we quietly shelve the thing that used to light us up. We tell ourselves we'll get back to it. We don't. Here's what I know to be true: the goals that scare you, the ones that make you feel exposed just by saying them out loud, those are the ones worth chasing. And when you start chasing them again, something shifts in every other area of your life too. So before tomorrow, I want you to think about one thing you've been putting off. Not someday. The actual thing. Bring it to the call. Say it out loud. Let's hold each other to it. See you in the morning. Jeff

Welcome to Anchored & Ready. Tell us who you are, what you do, and what brought you here. Share one area of your life you want to improve or lead with more intention. Keep it real. No filters needed.

Some of you might already know this so for you this is just a reminder. Put in the work to get to where you want to be. Not some hyped up positivity either - what’s holding you back is you. Challenge me if you don’t believe it to be true. I’d love to chat and push you on toward greatness. Ever been told by a microwave? https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZQDVWXuHe1/?igsh=MWc5YTd2czB6OXdhOA==

What role are you playing in that thing you are doing? Frustrated, tired, cold, sweating, hungry... doesn't matter - the role needs your focus and your execution based on what the role requires. If we do not understand the role we cannot execute. How does imposter syndrome fit into this? It can be overwhelming to assume a role and fight feelings of inadequacy. If we are going to show up and fulfill responsibility we need to understand the role and disconnect from any negative talk about who we are and who we are not yet. We are becoming and that includes failures. *** An example of these for me that I shared today on the coffee meeting was that I am dealing with a leadership issue of my own. I have found a few things that have done and the way they are playing out that I don't like the way they are going. I realized that these things are continuing because I am not leading correctly in a way that will see to it that these things get addressed and handled by those persons that are responsible for them. What I had initially realized is that I was not delegating effectively. Results are proving that the standard had not been set well enough and if there was to be any improvement I would need to do something new, something unfamiliar to myself. I was going to have to learn yet again. Learning is not unfamiliar - I have just forgotten that learning must actually be continual. Most of the learning in leadership for me up to this point was in how to care for a team, how to lead with empathy, how to be professional, how to be helpful, how to be available. This time the learning is a new thing on how leading is done best. I need to better understand my role as the leader for the team. I am the bottleneck preventing the next improvement. I also believe that I have been masking the "thing" and making up for it in other ways. Well, the "thing" continues to wear me out - literally tired and frustrated. It's not my fault, rather it's my responsibility to do something with this.