Alright boys, this Saturday morning we’ve got my good friend Matt Vincent joining us for the call. I know a bunch of you already know him, but for anyone who doesn’t, he’s a Highland Games World Champion, author, business owner, creator of the Not Dead Yet Community, and just an all-around interesting dude who’s lived a lot of life and has a lot to say. NDY is actually how Matt and I first connected almost five years ago, so I’m pretty pumped to finally have him come hang out with us inside Anchored & Ready. This isn’t going to be some formal interview where I fire questions at him for an hour. I want it to be a conversation, so come prepared. If there’s something you want to ask Matt about training, business, getting older, reinvention, building community, life after competing, or whatever else comes up, bring it. Saturday. 7:00 AM Pacific. I think this one’s going to be a damn good call. See you boys there. :::

Sports scorekeeping is great. Business scorekeeping is great. Both are designed and intended to deliver results, Winners & Losers. But for you and I this cannot be how we measure results and progress. Comparison is the thief of joy. We are now more than ever surrounded by opportunity via comparison. Ads are just comparisons and are very effective in sales. You are not a product to be sold. Why do you sell yourself the result that someone else has gotten without also putting in the exact work to go toward it? Do you even know how much work they put in? Do you realize that it will never be the same for them as it is for you. You might actually stand a better chance than they did. But you sit and keep score and make no progress. Let’s go somewhere a little more hidden and not so obvious. You can write down in the comments whichever less obvious thing that you hide or used to hide. The thing you minimize because it sucks. The thing you do in private because it contradicts all your public goals. We’ve all seen the diet ad where the husband and wife sneak off to a closet to hid and eat a snack and then find out that they went to the same closet. Then we feel the ad reminding us its ok - and we laugh about it because they designed the ad for entertainment. Some of that is real and yet the world of business uses it so lightly. - The fear you have of not measuring up in one of a thousand possible examples - so you hide it. - Fear of abandonment and watching others be loved. - Fear of failure - The action in trying just feels like failure so you don’t act. - Rejection - being told no and taking it personally. - Criticism and coaching intended to be helpful causes more shutting down and seclusion. - Showing up where people are gathered makes you nervous because on the inside you’re a mess so you stop showing up. - After a long time of wanting to be invited and then telling yourself a lie repeatedly - you do get the invite and you say you can’t go because it wouldn’t be right for you with your issues to show up with everyone else enjoying themselves… that you’d just be a burden.