“We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses” ~Carl Jung True change begins with acceptance. When we resist reality, we remain stuck, weighed down by judgment and fear. But when we acknowledge what is, we unlock the power to transform it. Condemnation traps us; understanding frees us. Choose acceptance, embrace growth, and step into the life you’re meant to live. ~Coach Rob

“Plodding wins the race” ~Aesop Success isn’t about speed; it’s about persistence. The strongest foundations are built brick by brick, not in a day. Stay steady, stay focused, and trust the journey. Every small step forward is progress. In the end, those who endure with patience and determination will always cross the finish line. One of the reasons many fail when attempting any sort of objective is that they approach their goals fuelled by temporary motivation, charging ahead like a raging bull—only to burn out quickly and surrender. Success comes from the mindset of discipline, like a locomotive: moving steadily, gradually building momentum, and gaining strength over time. Slow, consistent progress leads to lasting results. ~Coach Rob It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon

Yeah, you read that right. And I’ll explain why (it is a bit of a long read, but it deserves the detail as its a biggy and something that you may find counterintuitive at first...) @Sara Giraldo posted this excellent post about self sabotage: https://www.skool.com/a-love-letter-to-life/are-you-self-sabotaging?p=b9c92af2 - in it, she outlines signs of self sabotage that we can experience (which are all ok to feel), as well as the message that 'Self-sabotage is often rooted in fear and scarcity, but the good news is that you are in control of your choices.' - which is entirely true. With that all said, what if self sabotage doesn't actually exist and is actually something else? I don't mean using kidology to dress it up as something else (as much of the positive thinking world would attempt), but more to look at it from an underlying root cause perspective... Let’s take a change in life that you want to implement like wanting to get into physical shape. The advice you receive from someone like a trainer is that you need to go running every day, and to do that, they give you life hacks like organize your running kit by the side of the bed, get up at 5am each day and go running, and you do all that consciously – for a day, week, month, year, until you stop, and when you stop and end up not getting into shape, you put it down to self-sabotage. The term implies that we intentionally did something (or stopped doing it) which prevented us from attaining our goal. And while it’s true that we stopped doing something, it goes beyond it being intentional. It’s our conscious and subconscious at odds with each other. When you consciously said “I want to get into shape”, your subconscious, which has been running things for you all these years keeping you alive in the process, in response goes “…why?” It asks why because (without you even consciously knowing or being aware of it), the current situation of not being in shape meets your 4 humans needs:

On the back of @Christine Szinner 's gracious invite to host a session in her community Skool for ChangeMakers, I'm stoked to announce that I'll be hosting Your Answers Are In Your Shadow live on Thur 14th November at 3pm BST, 10AM EST 🔥 In this live session, I'll be delivering an introductory guide to shadow work, where I'll cover ❓ What is a shadow and shadow work? ❓ Why would you shadow work? ❓ How do you do shadow work? ❓ Practical examples and exercises to start shadow work for yourself This is one of my favourite topics to talk about - it plays a key part in my own personal development work, and has the potential to do the same for you too. Don't let the name fool you - your shadow is there to be understood and integrated, no be fought against or shyed away from. This session will give you the start of the means to explore your shadow further and give you some proper breakthrough moments. To whet your appetite, check out this trailer. Join me live on Thur 14th Nov, where I'll also have a special, limited time only offer for you... Drop a comment below if you've got any questions + to let us know if you'll be coming 🙌

You all know @Life Coach Rob aka Robert Lanthier. He's the posting machine on Skool, offering multiple pieces of advice on a daily basis on fitness, mindset and beyond, so it's a real win for us to have him join us in Worth Waker! Rob is someone you want in your network and connect with, as he's someone who epitomises the qualities of community spirit and building meaningful conversations and connections, and indeed I experienced that personally in his group in the short time I've been in there. Please join me in welcoming Rob with a comment and gif