The Chooser Identity: Values → Standards: - Values ( Who I Am): ☆ communicative ☆ supportive ☆ collaborative ☆ conscious ☆ light hearted ☆ adventurous ☆ comfortable/cozy ☆ passionate ☆ humorous/playful ☆ creative - Standards (What I Recieve): ☆ 100% to 100% effort ☆ consideration ☆ communication ☆ vulnerability ☆ safety ☆ embraced within love languages ☆ inspiration ☆ motivation to evolve within creativity & consciousness ☆ creativity - Boundaries (What I Require) ☆ loyalty ☆ honestly ☆ communication ☆ collaboration ☆ love without stipulations ☆ attention to the inner child (both of us) ☆ accountability ☆ tenderness ☆ compassion ☆ flow ☆ healthy reciprocation ☆ create with me Day 10: ♡ ♥️ What was your biggest insight from today? - My natural state is the free version of myself that let go of the old patterns. I let go of the outcome and fully feel into my heart. This is true magnetic love for myself and for the world around me. 🖤🌏 ♥️ How are you going to EMBODY the shifts that you made over the past 10 days? - I shall let go of the outcome and feel through my heart. Observe my thoughts without control and through meditation. The frame technique. Journaling my observations and progress. Continue the release of all that no longer serves me through mirror and meditative practices. All through DAILY practice. 🧘‍♀️ ♥️ How can you bring what you’ve learned into your life? - All of these insights and revelations can be brough to life through the listed daily practices and keeping myself accountable within the supportive space in this virtual group and within my personal life. This is the real me. This is who I am. I am magnetic love. ♡♡

Secure Attachment Mirror Exercise: 🪞 - Exercises like these are so intense depending on what's going on or what stage you're at in life, but they'reare also the most transformative. You become intentional with truly pausing to look at yourself and acknowledge what your inner child went through and what they lacked. I was in tears after a few minutes but it felt sooooo good. That release was needed from so long ago but simultaneously, this was the point that I was ready to face myself. I don't think I would've given myself the same grace in the not so distant past. Shield Awareness Exercise 🛡 - Where do I guard your heart in love? : Overthinking, fixing, hyper-independence, perfectionism, isolation - What emotion is this shield protecting me from? : Vulnerability - “If I didn’t need this shield to feel safe… how would I show up differently in love?” : I would show up with no pedestals or expectations, and therefore no resistance, just purely as myself. I would let go of the outcome and fully feel into my heart. This aligns me with people, places, & and opportunities that match my goals and manifestations. ♡♡♡

• What is one emotion you’ve been avoiding and how can you begin to embrace it? - I've been avoiding aspects of vulnerability and trust. I can begin to embrace these emotions/concepts by daily practice of the frame technique and trying something new/doing something that the old version of myself would find to be too vulnerable. • Where do you abandon yourself in order to keep connection? - depending on the type of person I was with, I have noticed on and off (not nearly as much now) how I would mold myself into someone else to make that person more comfortable OR I'd do the complete opposite and completely avoid a new connection. • How can you show up more as the real you in your daily life? - expressing vulnerability more often, staying present in my body, setting boundaries by practicing confidence in my own frame, letting go of the outcome! • Where have you been holding back or not giving yourself permission to fully be yourself? - I still find myself having moments of not putting myself out there creatively or saying exactly what I need to say in the moment to someone simply because it doesn't seem worth getting into. Micro-Boundary Practice: • What emotions came up - The first half of the session allowed every emotion possible to come up, emotions of sadness and anger that aren't always present. These emotions seemed from past experience that I've been unpacking over years of realization and shadow work. The second half of the session led to a calmer, more peaceful state of mind. • What energy released - Blocked up energy of past trauma and avoidance left from the bottom of my feet and my heart. • How you felt afterward - I felt lighter and more compassionate and forgiving towards myself. The old story didn't resonate anymore. ♡♡♡

It turns out I needed some extra time to really figure out what this section meant to me but that's truly part of the process, isn't it? You stay consistent while being thoughtful and taking the time you need. ♡ - Patterns between mom & I: years of mixed patterns between abandonment/absent tendencies, being my friend instead of my mom, not feeling seen or heard if it conflicted with something she needed, and then me eventually expressing how much she owes me later in life because I didn't get what I needed/wanted during those earlier stages. I still have a relationship with her but due to who she is as a person, I don't think she'll truly understand what these patterns are and what she did to me. - Patterns between dad & I: neglect/absent/nothing concrete until my adulthood (once he got sober). We now have regulated & healthy patterns, but I know that the lack of these positive patterns set the tone for a lot of loneliness & abandonment. - My mom & dad: The combination of patterns from my mom and my dad showed (and quite frankly along with the relationships of several other parents from the friends that I grew up with) that people don't take relationships seriously, people don't know what they want, and/or a lot of connections don't last. This created mixtures of patterns that would just between anxious attachment styles to avoidant attachments styles. - The inner child: the inner child had to develop traits of conformity and people pleasing in order to feel seen and accepted. The need for being seen and understood through genuine attention were not met for the inner child. - love felt safe when: I was being listened to and was told that I mattered just by simply existing. - who did I need to be?: I needed to be accepted and feel like I fit in. - I get love/approval by: blending in and conforming to what the ego and others around me deem as "normal" - I avoid pain by: not standing out or being outspoken or even standing up for myself - adult patterns: "avoidance/I'm good" - the root story I'm ready to release is: I won't be loved and accepted simply but just being me and who I am at my core. - Meditative insights: it felt like I was the obseverer in this movie-like structure, where every damanged or once damage connection, no matter how minor or extreme popped up. I said the repeated phrases as each reflection passed. It started insanely heavy but then maybe after the 4th or 5th connection I suddenly felt lighter. I could feel the weight of every single grudge or scorned memory I ever had expell from my energetic field. I know with practice will come more quickly and be a consistent tool within this existence. ♡

1. Several events stemming from the lack of a relationship with both parents (especially my mom) to where I didn't feel seen and didn't have the proper guidance to handle rejection or uncertainty from others. 2. The story that I've been learning to grow past is: people never know what they want so they're never truly genuine. They'll eventually be done with you. That's caused me to have mixes of anxious attachment style in the past and as of more recently, avoidant attachment style. 3. I'm more than enough for myself. The past doesn't decide who I am now. I make my own mold and destiny. These experiences elevate me to new heights on where I actually want to be within love and abundance. I'm grateful for the lessons these emergencies have taught me, rather than being a victim to them. ♡♡