1) An identity I absorbed in the past is the fixer, controller, and the pleaser. I’m accepting the fixer part of me. I am accepting the controller part of me. I am accepting the pleaser part of me. 2) Who I would be without the pattern of fixing? I would be more authentically myself and able to be in my frame and body. Who would I be without the pattern of controlling? I would be free and more authentic. Who would I be without the pattern of pleasing? I would be the true version of me and choose myself.

Most people spend their whole lives trying to fit in Changing themselves Questioning themselves Hiding parts of who they are Just to feel accepted But the moment you stop abandoning yourself… everything changes Your story Your heart Your sensitivity Your humour Your way of seeing the world That’s YOU ❤️ The most powerful thing you can be is fully yourself JUST DO YOU 👊 I'm interested What’s one thing about yourself you’re finally learning to accept or embrace? ✨ Speaking up more ✨ Saying no without guilt ✨ Not explaining myself constantly ✨ Resting without feeling lazy ✨ Being emotional and sensitive ✨ Taking up space ✨ Starting over ✨ My body as it is right now ✨ My weirdness ✨ Being different ✨ Trusting my own path

Crazy how many of us are out here waiting for permission to become ourselves Permission to change to speak up to start to take up space to stop pretending we’re ok Meanwhile your soul already knows who you are underneath all the fear and conditioning Maybe it’s time to start listening to that ❤️ What’s one thing you know deep down you need to stop ignoring ...

Not for becoming someone new… for coming back to yourself Back to what actually feels safe Grounded Sustainable Your body knows when you’ve been pushing too hard Your nervous system knows when you’ve been surviving instead of living Maybe this season isn’t about doing more Maybe it’s about finally stopping the ways you abandon yourself ✨ What’s one thing you’re being asked to slow down and look at right now?

I did this reset only a couple of months ago and I discovered such great insights that allowed me to begin to love my partner more. The relationship imploded and he bullied me out of our home. I’m not feeling bitter and sad about this…angry yes! But it’s helped me notice a few things about myself that will stop me attracting a relationship like this ever again. I genuinely couldn’t remember what I’d written in round 1 of the reset even though it was only a couple of months ago. I’ve just looked back and it was a much weaker version of what I’ve just written now. I’ve had a lifetime of being put in a box, told my feelings aren’t important, play along or be punished. I’ve been petrified of the punishment - the fear of the physical, mental and abandonment punishments. My biggest breakthrough has been understanding that voice in my head that is constantly playing out real and imaginary scenarios, is trying to make myself heard, smoothing out the story, trying to make myself feel safe. This internal torment has been trying to keep me safe by not allowing me to feel the fear of the punishments and the abandonment and everything being taken away from me. Well no more…I’d already started pushing back this week against my ex. In fact I experimented just to see what he’d actually do and what I noticed is, he’s just a bully! I didn’t give in to his demands and turned round and said NO and who cares about the consequences, they are his to own! Stop paying the bills, do it! suffer the consequences. Try and become between me and my son! Do it! The fear around this is being transformed. This is such a breakthrough for me! I could kind of see it but all of a sudden it’s crystal clear! Stop managing my environment and protecting those around me who aren’t protecting me! Stop letting that voice in my head stop me from feeling. How others act and behave is their issue. I no longer need to fear punishment and abandonment, it is a childhood fear that my nervous system and subconscious have held onto to keep me safe.