Use this thread to discuss the 5-Minute Session-Saver Script. This tool gives you the neurological protocol to bypass the emotional storm and regain control of your toughest sessions in 90 seconds or less. To make your post actionable, include: - Context – What kind of session or conversation were you in (therapy session, coaching call, family crisis)? - Sentence used – Which specific Affect Label or script from the PDF did you use? - Impact – How did the other person respond? Did you see the "Gobsmacked" effect (silence, sigh, or shoulder drop)? - Lessons/questions – What will you try differently next time? Any questions about choosing the right label under pressure? Keep examples general (no names or private details), and please post here rather than DMing. We monitor this thread and aim to respond within one business day. The PDF is in the Free Tools course for easy reference.

Hey everyone! This week, Doug released the Emotional Invalidation Audit – the tool that exposes why your most "reasonable" phrases are actually sabotaging your de-escalation. If you’re looking for the official home for this PDF, it’s now live in the Classroom under the 'Free Tools' section. We’ve set up this thread as a dedicated space for you to share what you’re noticing as you go through the audit. Quick check-in: 1. Which of the 7 phrases surprised you the most? 2. Which one are you committing to stop using today? I’ll be here in the comments to help you with "Better Moves" if you have specific scenarios you're working through! --- Access the Audit here.

Use this thread to discuss the 7 “Reasonable” Sentences That Escalate Meetings tool. It uncovers phrases that sound calm but actually pour fuel on the fire. To make your post actionable, include: - Context – What kind of meeting or conversation were you in (team meeting, client call, etc.)? - Sentence used – Which of the seven phrases did you notice yourself or someone else using? - Impact – How did the other person respond? Did tension rise, or were you able to catch it in time? - Lessons/questions – What will you try differently next time? Any questions about spotting or replacing these phrases? Keep examples general (no names or private details), and please post here rather than DMing. We monitor this thread and aim to respond within one business day. The PDF is in the Free Tools course for easy reference.

Use this thread to ask questions, share your experiences, or celebrate wins using the “3 Phrases That Defuse Family Dinner Blowups” tool. To make sure your post gets a helpful response, please include: - Brief context – Who were you talking with (family/friend/colleague) and what sparked the tension? - Which phrase you tried – e.g., “You feel attacked,” “You feel pressured,” or “You feel hurt.” - What happened next – Did the person pause, soften their tone, or keep going? How long did you wait in silence? - Any challenges or questions – Was it hard to stay silent? Unsure which phrase to choose? Let us know. Please keep examples general (no names or sensitive details). Post all questions here rather than DMing; we monitor this thread regularly and aim to respond within one business day. You’ll find the PDF and overview in the Free Tools course of this classroom.

I'm new to the group but very eager to learn. I'm heading out for a wonderful holiday excursion and won't be able to plug in to the community until January 05, 2026, but know that I'm delighted to be here!❣️