This vessel is short lived. I turned 45 this week . I could have 35, 40 or so summers left to live, as this incarnation of Tina. I believe my soul doesn’t die but my body will and this version of my experience will expire and transform to something else. So with this time we have what are we learning, experiencing, sharing with the world, what impact have we had and are having and are we living life to the fullest. We get so caught up in ego stuff, muggle life, day today, the past, old experiences, limiting beliefs, grind that we forget the biggest part of life is to live it. Have experiences. Get those life level points. Clear your karma. Integrate your life lessons, find your peace ✌️ What muggle lower ego stuff can you release today and what bigger or new experiences can you embrace? Tx

Happy Self Care Sunday. The sun is out in London which is always exciting as i know i spend too much time inside with the work that I do so today ill be going for walks and reading in the garden. But first yoga, workout and meditation. Im all packed and ready to fly to Tunisa tomorrow for my birthday, im excited to get my feet in sand, swim and relax. Deep breaths, dropping into my body and listening to the ocean, to nature, feeling the warm sun on my skin will give me a sense of wellbeing i havent had for a while so im excited for that. What does your Self Care Sunday and plans ahead look like? Are you building in ways to fill your cup or just building a to do list to bosh through with no you time (if so please relook at that). Tx

To protect your safety—and the safety of this community—please note: - This is not therapy - This is not trauma processing - This is not crisis intervention - This is not a space for graphic trauma details or processing in comments Tx

When a child is dysregulated, what they need most isn’t distance — it’s connection. Traditional “time out” often focuses on isolation. The child is removed, left alone with big feelings they don’t yet have the tools to process. From the outside, it may look like compliance… but internally, it can create shame, disconnection, or reinforce the belief: “I’m too much” or “I’m bad.” A trauma-informed approach leans into “time in.” Time in doesn’t mean allowing harmful behaviour — it means staying present through it. It looks like sitting nearby, softening your tone, and helping your child name what’s happening inside them. It’s co-regulation before self-regulation. Instead of “go away until you’re calm,” it becomes, “I’m here with you while you find your way back.” Because children don’t learn emotional regulation in isolation — they learn it in relationship. When you choose connection during dysregulation: - You show them their emotions are safe to feel - You model how to move through overwhelm - You build trust instead of fear - You teach, rather than punish This doesn’t mean it’s easy. Staying regulated while your child is not can feel incredibly challenging — especially if it triggers your own nervous system. This is where your awareness becomes the work. Slowing your breath, grounding your body, and responding instead of reacting. Connection is the intervention. Over time, “time in” helps a child develop the internal capacity to pause, reflect, and choose differently. Not because they were forced to — but because they were supported enough to learn how. And that’s the goal. Not obedience. But emotional safety, resilience, and secure attachment. If you haven't checked out my parenting workshop there is a video as well as a PDF on your children's emotions, its in the parenting with a narcissist section but there are somatic trauma informed resources too. Tx

IFS / Parts... Inside each of us lives a family of parts — each trying, in its own way, to protect us and help us survive. When we begin to get to know them, and listen to them with connection, compassion, and an understanding of their role, why they are there and what they need to be unburdened of that role, healing happens from within us. Here is an overview of IFS - if you're interested in learning more ill add a session to the calendar or classroom. Parts work is a big part of my coaching process and im a big Frank Anderson fan. The book No Bad Parts is excellent for learning more too. 💔 The Exile This is the younger, wounded part of us — the inner child who carries the pain and limiting beliefs such as: - I’m not good enough. - I’m unlovable - I’m not worthy - Im not important. These parts hold emotions like shame, sadness, loneliness, and grief. 🛡️ The Managers These are the proactive protectors — the parts that try to keep everything under control so we don’t feel the pain underneath. They try and run the show on a daily basis. They might look like: - the inner critic - perfectionist - planner - people-pleaser - high achiever, caretaker - or even anxiety and procrastination. 🔥 The Firefighters These parts come rushing in when pain gets triggered — when the wound feels too raw. They try to distract or soothe with short-term relief - overworking - numbing out - anger - addictions - bingeing - withdrawal - self harm 🌿 The Core Authentic Self At the core of us all is the Self — the calm, compassionate center that isn’t broken and doesn’t need fixing. The Self is curious, courageous, creative, confident, connected, clear, calm, and compassionate. When we pause and lead from our Self, we can understand, integrate, and heal every part of us. You are not your parts — you are the Self who can love them all back into harmony. Tx💫