Good afternoon everyone! I just wanted to introduce myself to everyone. My name used to be Elizabeth Yoder but is now Elizabeth Summers since September 27th. I joined the single to married community in April of this year with no expectations other than to build confidence and grow stronger in my identity in Christ. But here I am, 6 months later and I'm now married to a wonderful man, Aaron Summers. I have joined this community to advance my personal growth and wanting to create an epic marriage together as a couple as well.

It is common to miss this even after the wedding. When a wife begins to pull back, the instinct is to fix it with more words, more patience, more kindness, or more promises. Here is the truth of the matter. Emotional safety is not built with apologies and good deeds after pulling back. It is built with consistency and faithfulness alongside a committed plan. Show up day after day. Be emotionally present, reliable, and steady. When a husband cycles from being loving and attentive, to withdrawing in fear or insecurity, then returning with apologies, it creates instability. She will not feel safe. It feels like standing on shifting ground. 👉 For husbands: choose consistency over comfort. That looks like: • Showing up emotionally even when you feel insecure.• Keeping your commitments, big or small. • Regulating before relating. Breathe, pray, then engage. • Repairing quickly. “I see what I did. Here is how it impacted you. I own it. Here is how I will make it right.” • Leading with presence, not speeches. 👉 For wives: hold space with truth and grace. That looks like: • Acknowledging the good you see, while naming inconsistency clearly. • Refusing to carry his emotional weight for him. • Asking for repair and watching for progress, not just apologies. • Appreciating steady steps. Reinforce what you want to see repeated. 🏔️ Emotional safety is like a lighthouse. It does not chase the ship. It does not disappear in the storm. It shines steadily, showing the way home. That steadiness is what allows trust to grow, intimacy to deepen, and covenant to flourish. How to practice this in EpicYourLife • Daily Connection Window, 20 minutes: phones down. Eye contact. One win. One worry. One prayer. • Couples Epic30, 3 times a week: share a gratitude, a worthy, a short letter to Abba, and a takeaway. • T2T together when triggered: name the trigger, release the lie, replace it with truth, bless each other. • Weekly Shalom Check in, 45 minutes: review calendar, budget, FELDSPAR priorities, and one way to serve each other this week.

After 11 years with kids in the “System” and 5 years walking with the Amish, one truth has become undeniable: The deepest trauma rarely comes from the behavior itself… it comes from the response to the behavior. A parent’s response. A sibling’s response. A teacher’s, a pastor’s, a community’s response. That moment of reaction doesn’t just correct behavior — it cements belief. • When the response is shaming, harsh, or rejecting → the belief becomes, “I’m bad. I’ll never be enough.” • When the response is steady, compassionate, and curious → the belief becomes, “I can grow. I’m still worthy. I’m loved.” Psychologically, it’s the response that shapes the story we carry into adulthood — the story about who we are, what we’re worth, and whether we belong. Our responses matter more than we think. Because they don’t just end a moment… they echo for a lifetime. *Is there a response you’ve experienced that caused a harmful belief about yourself? Please share🫶🏽 #ThePowerOfResponse #EpicYourLife #HealingGenerations #flipthescript #createanewstory #mindset #personalgrowth #amish #amishmatcmakers #fostercare #fosterkids #trauma #response