Heads up… There are some HUGE OOOFFF moments incoming ChatGPT has totes levelled up and now does flyers, posters, banners… the whole shebang… and I kinda do get why so many people are jumping on it… it's fast… it's easy… it gets the job done… But ooofff… here's the thingy-ma-bobbles that's been niggling at me… So many peeps using the same tool… in the same way… with the same templates… and everything is starting to look kinda identical… different words… different colours… same layout… same meh energy… and when everything looks the same nobody actually looks at anything… You know what that's called… blending in… and blending in is the one thing you abso-fricken-lutely cannot afford to do… And here's the meh problem with trends that can kick you in the ass… They're designed for mass adoption… which means by definition they cannot make you stand out… the moment something is everywhere it stops being distinctive… and instead of expressing something totes yours you start asking how do I use this trend well… which is a completely different question with a completely different outcome… And over time your audience stops associating the visual with YOU and starts associating it with the trend… so when it fades… and it will… so does the recognition you worked so hard to build… ouch… So here's some yummy food for thought for next time you see a trend and you're gonna jump in head first… Ask yourself this before you hit post… 👉 Does this actually look like ME and my business… or have I just filled in someone else's template obvs… 👉 If I took my name and words off this… would anyone know it was mine… 👉 Am I showing up here or am I kinda watering myself down to fit a format… 👉 Will someone scroll past and go… oh wow that is SO epic af… or will they scroll straight past without blinking… 👉 Does this feel like MY brand or does it feel like everyone else's brand with my colours slapped on it… Because your visual identity should be so undeniably YOU that someone scrolling at a hundred miles an hour goes… OOOFFF that's Mimi… or oh HELLO that's Sarah… or oh that's HER… without even reading a single word… WOOP…

Because I see SO many people mumble this same thing over and over again… “No one posts in my group…” “No matter what I do it’s really hard…” “Yes they comment sometimes… BUT I totes wish people would actually POST…” So first up… 👉 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗜 𝗣𝗢𝗦𝗧 𝗜𝗡 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗚𝗥𝗢𝗨𝗣?? Like… if I joined right now… would I KNOW what to say… or would I be sat there like ummmm… what even goes in here… 😅 Drop it below 👇 2… 👉 𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗨𝗔𝗟 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀…like proper KNOW KNOW… not just buried in a welcome post from 1842 that no one ever reads again 😏 3… 👉 𝗠𝗔𝗞𝗘 𝗜𝗧 𝗦𝗜𝗠𝗣𝗟𝗘 𝗔𝗦 𝗙*𝗖𝗞… like embarrassingly simple… don’t make it hard work… none of us want to sit there overthinking a post like it’s some kinda exam… “is this right… does this go here… what if it’s wrong…what if I look stupid…” pffffttt NOPE. Easy. Obvs. DONE. WOOP 👉 NOW… Drop yours below… AND THEN go do a post in your group telling everyone it… like straight after… not later… not “I’ll come back to this”… NOW 😏 I’ve got loads more tips on this (get peeps wanting to speak kinda stuff) (like making it about THEM not you… which is a whole other convo 👀) but I’ll save that for another post… (unless you beg me… tee hee 😏) Right… quick share from me because I’ve literally just done this… THE BACKROOM!! (yes… I got a little bit OTT with categories before… like… WAY too many… looked cute… did not help anyone MOVE 😅) So we stripped it RIGHT back… Now we’ve got 4… (and honestly… might go to 3… because ain’t that the magic number… WOOOP 👀) 𝟭 — 𝗪𝗢𝗢𝗣𝗦 (𝗮𝗸𝗮 𝗪𝗜𝗡𝗦… 𝗔𝗟𝗟 𝗢𝗙 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗠… 𝗻𝗼 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲) - I made $10 and I’m gonna blow it on ice cream 🍦  - I finally sent the email I’ve been procrastinating over for 7 months and now feel like a badass - I said NO… like a full sentence… NO ALL OF IT COUNTS… we celebrate the tiny stuff AND the big stuff… because that’s how you build momentum 𝟮 — 𝗪𝗢𝗕𝗕𝗟𝗘𝗦 (𝗮𝗸𝗮… 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗟 𝗦𝗛*𝗧) - Fck… I had a shit week… could not get motivated at all… - Not even looking for advice… just feel a bit alone in this… - I farted really loud on my Skool live and now I wanna disappear off the internet forever 😭 - I used to love Facebook but now it just feels like constant drama and I cba - I wanna say what I actually think… but people-pleaser me is like “absolutely not, stay quiet”

I’m going to share something… and this feels like the most vulnerable thing I’ve ever shared. This isn’t about business. This is about having a voice… I have never had a child. I have never, ever been pregnant. I’ve never been with a partner who has ever said, “we should have a child.” There was one time… and after one week, it was taken back. Like… no, we shouldn’t. There’s a part of me that is really stable in who I am… in my belief in myself. But if I’m really honest… there’s also this deep grief. Like somewhere in me… there’s a feeling that I’m unworthy… because I’ve never done what biologically, as a woman, maybe I was meant to do. And I know I’m not the only woman who feels this. I know there are millions of women who go through this. But right now… with perimenopause… it’s like it’s all getting louder. Every time my period comes. Every hot sweat. Every shift in my body. It’s like this constant reminder of… what was this all for? This biological clock that never actually gave me what it was meant to give me. And I want to be really clear… I love my life. I have my dog… Nami, she’s my daughter… she’s my world. I’m happy… she is everything to me ❤️ If I had a child, my life would look completely different… and I’m not sitting here saying I regret it. But two things can exist at the same time. Because there’s also this part of me that feels… not normal. A part that grieves. A part that wonders… when I die… what did I leave behind? And I think this is something I’ve brushed under the carpet for a long time. But I can feel it now… slowly coming up. I’m sharing this because I have a voice. We all have a voice. And I’m living life now… not to hide parts of myself… but to be a voice. I can’t deny that anymore… Let’s stop hiding the things we pretend aren’t there… it’s all valid…❤️