We give kids time-outs, but adults need them more. When you are flooded (heart racing, hands shaking, triggered), your IQ figuratively drops. You become less reasonable in that moment!
The Protocol:
- Call it: "I need a time-out."
- Time it: "I will be back in 20 minutes." (Crucial step! Don't just storm off).
- Do it: Go self-regulate. Breathe. Pray.
- Return: Come back when the brain is back online.
This isn't punishment; it's a pause to reset.