@Laura Harris same here. I’m finding freedom in “less is more” type of responses for some things.

@Christina Sophie we don’t disagree when It’s an “inner circle” person, whom has earned that title through consistency and safety for us. They honor and support our boundaries like Chuck Norris!

@Laura Harris First, we want to acknowledge the heaviness. You’ve done worthwhile work. When expectations are agreed upon but ignored, you aren't dealing with a communication problem; you may be dealing with a pattern of behavior. Here are three tips for dealing with resentment: - Move from "Requests" to "Boundaries": An expectation is something you ask of him. A boundary is what you will do to protect your own peace when that expectation isn't met. If he’s not following through, you have to decide how you will protect your heart from the fallout. Boundaries aren't about controlling him; they are about taking ownership of your own needs and/or safety. - Identify the "Replacement Behavior": Instead of focusing on what he isn't doing, get surgical about the "what to do." If gaslighting starts, the replacement behavior might be: "I am going to step out of this conversation until we can talk in a more collaborative way." - Audit the "Safe Room": You mentioned feeling ignored and invalidated. In our Boundaries Protocol, we talk about the "Bullseye": just You, God, and your Spouse. If that space doesn't feel safe, you need a "Safe Room" of trusted confidants, mentors, or counselors, who can support and advocate for you and your marriage. You shouldn't be carrying the weight of a failing agreement alone. Do any of these options resonate with you? Check the classroom tab. We have some resources available to you. If you need more support, please DM us.

@Tarissa Stone hang in there. Oftentimes, it is a longer process than we wish or think; especially if the difficult season has lasted awhile. We had years of unhealthy interactions. It took some hard boundaries and wise counsel for us to address the root cause and move forward.