Healing isn't a destination! Healing Isn't linear! Healing is a journey... sometimes you can move through seasons and circumstances with ease and grace, and the next time you can feel your chest tightening, your anxiety spike and you really have to focus on self regulating!! The question isn't "Do You Think I'm Healed" or "Am I Healed Yet" --- The better questions are: 🌻Can I stay present with my feeling and emotions rather than avoiding them or running? 🌻 Can I respond with curiosity instead of shame? 🌻 Can I offer myself compassion instead of critcism? 🌻 Can I recover more quickly than I used to? 🌻 Am I becoming the woman I want to be? Healing isn't the absence of pain! Healing IS growing your capacity to stay connected to yourself through the discomfort of emotional and/or physical distress... Healing isn't perfection - it's practice.. and continuing to come home to the woman you are meant to be!! Where are you most tempted to avoid the feelings and emotions?

As a recovering people pleaser, there have been some really hard decisions and boundaries I have had to create for my emotional health. When you decide to take ownership in your own life, you can be confronted with some very painful circumstances. The very people you thought would always have your back, are sometimes the very people who resist you making changes. The reason for this is, when you decide to take ownership of yourself, you are no longer a doormat to be walked all over or told how to act or what to do and that is very uncomfortable for people you have used your methods of survival to their benefit. Even when they don't consciously recognize it. If you are terrified of stepping into your own story because you know it has the potential to create waves, I see you and I get it. One courageous act at a time, brings you back to yourself. "Healing begins when women choose to engage their stories with curiosity and compassion instead of shame". Join my 4 week intensive coaching program where you'll explore the thoughts and beliefs that keep you stuck. Comment BLOOM for your spot! 🦋You Were Made For More🦋 xoxo, Verna

When your heart feels tender, something inside of you needs tended to in a gentle, compassionate manner. I realized again this morning, that one minute I feel okay, and the next minute I'm in tears. For most of my life, I had been a master of stuffing all my feelings, pasting on a smile, and saying I'm fine! Since I began my journey to reconnecting with myself, my feelings, and emotions, and using the tools that I teach, my heart has become softer. Sometimes those emotions feel so overwhelming and you really just want to stuff them down, but when you learn to tend to yourself, you begin to know the version of you that is tender, compassionate, kind, and embodies love in the most vulnerable and authentic ways. And you may notice it's very uncomfortable for the people you think will always have your back. You were not made to stay small or play small because of someone else's discomfort. Your people are those who can sit with you in the hard vulnerable spaces without judging or even sometimes saying anything. Learning the art of holding space for someone else's pain is the most beautiful gift you can offer someone else. Can I hold space for you today? Comment or DM "BLOOM" for your spot. 🦋"Healing begins when women stop running from themselves and attend to their thoughts, feelings, and emotions with curiosity and compassion instead of shame".🦋 You Were Made for More! xoxo, Verna

The power of this work! A personal experience of what I'm currently working through... Back story - we have a family reunion coming up this wkend and a situation presented itself yesterday that we are not comfortable with.. The me from a few years ago would've said we're gonna push through and go anyway because we don't miss out. The me of today says, wait a minute, if I don't feel good about it, we don't need to go. I had a conversation this morning with the individual who is making a choice that could impact many because they don't want to miss out, neither do they want to take responsibility about a situation that was outside of their control, but is impacting them. I was hopeful we could come to a basic understanding, and the reality is, no matter the choice, there's gonna be deep disappointment and a lot of other feelings. Here's what is different for me, even though I am disappointed and totally feel unseen and unheard, I still get to keep the boundary for us for the safety of us and others. Because, it's not us versus them.. It is simply deciding that we won't be participants in putting others in harms way even if it means we will miss out. It feels so unfair, especially to my kids, and it has been such a good teachable moment for us to show them what it looks like in real life about taking full responsibility for our choices, because we can only control ourselves, and let others do what they want to do even if it puts others at risk. It can be super uncomfortable sitting with our disappointment and holding space for the wide variety of emotions and even being challenged by someone else to think or act differently... And of course we feel the disappointment, and then it's also the peace of knowing we are doing the right thing for us! If any of this resonates with you and you have big feelings and emotions you are avoiding, I have 5 free spots open for a 4 week intensive and I invite you to DM me or comment BLOOM for your spot and I will coach you through the process.

I've been working on some exciting upgrades the past few days and will coninue to do so, adding things to the classroom, etc. My dream for years has been to be a coach. The imposter syndrome and self sabotage kept me playing small inside a box for far too long, and this week that is changing. I'm launching my very first 4 week coaching intensive to 5 women for 🆓... This is for the woman who is ready to step into her own transformation by engaging her story, staying with the process through thought work and her inner critic and begin a cycle of change for herself and her family. If your are ready to do the inner work and give a review and feedback, I would be honored to walk with you. Send me a DM and lets get started! XOXO, Verna 🌻