Jun 8 • ⚓Anchored Thoughts
You Have Agency
The power of this work!
A personal experience of what I'm currently working through...
Back story - we have a family reunion coming up this wkend and a situation presented itself yesterday that we are not comfortable with..
The me from a few years ago would've said we're gonna push through and go anyway because we don't miss out. The me of today says, wait a minute, if I don't feel good about it, we don't need to go.
I had a conversation this morning with the individual who is making a choice that could impact many because they don't want to miss out, neither do they want to take responsibility about a situation that was outside of their control, but is impacting them.
I was hopeful we could come to a basic understanding, and the reality is, no matter the choice, there's gonna be deep disappointment and a lot of other feelings.
Here's what is different for me, even though I am disappointed and totally feel unseen and unheard, I still get to keep the boundary for us for the safety of us and others. Because, it's not us versus them..
It is simply deciding that we won't be participants in putting others in harms way even if it means we will miss out.
It feels so unfair, especially to my kids, and it has been such a good teachable moment for us to show them what it looks like in real life about taking full responsibility for our choices, because we can only control ourselves, and let others do what they want to do even if it puts others at risk.
It can be super uncomfortable sitting with our disappointment and holding space for the wide variety of emotions and even being challenged by someone else to think or act differently...
And of course we feel the disappointment, and then it's also the peace of knowing we are doing the right thing for us!
If any of this resonates with you and you have big feelings and emotions you are avoiding, I have 5 free spots open for a 4 week intensive and I invite you to DM me or comment BLOOM for your spot and I will coach you through the process.
You Were Made for More!
Xoxo, Verna🦋
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