Hey everyone. Thank you for your participation in Therapists of Skool. The group is being archived for lack of involvement, mostly due to my inability to make time for it with other things happening in my life. I will love keeping in touch with you all via Skool. This group will go dark 9/15/2026. Thank you to our star member, @Lilyan Fowler for her daily posts and helpful information! Blessings to you all. Have fun in Skool! 📚

🍂 Gilmore Girls Season Is Almost Here Okay, this week's fun fact is purely nostalgic. I LOVE Gilmore Girls. 😂☕ My sister and I watched it religiously growing up, so the show is tied to a lot of memories for me. Now I've carried the tradition into adulthood, and my wife and I rewatch it every fall. But here's where you can tell this isn't just a casual appreciation for the show... Our crew includes: 🐶 Sookie 🐱 Patty 🐱 Babette 🐟 Michel Yep. Every one of them is named after a Gilmore Girls character. 😂 Apparently Fowler family pet-naming rights belong exclusively to the residents of Stars Hollow. But I think that's part of why comfort shows can mean so much to us. Sometimes we're not just returning to a familiar story. We're returning to memories—the people we watched with, the season of life we were in, the jokes we remember, and the traditions we've carried forward. Something I watched with my sister growing up is now something I share with my wife every fall. And I love that. 💜 So bring on the cooler weather, the Luke's sweatshirt, and— Coffee, coffee, coffee. ☕☕☕ Now I want to know: What's your “I've watched this 100 times and I'm absolutely watching it again” show? 🪶 Feather for Thought: Sometimes the things we return to aren't just familiar—they reconnect us with people, memories, and different versions of ourselves. Until next time... be well. 💜 Educational purposes only. This content is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care. #FunFactFriday #GilmoreGirls #Nostalgia #ComfortShows #Connection #FlyFree #FowlerCounseling

What's Underneath the Anger? Yesterday we talked about anger being functional—an emotion that can sometimes help us recognize when something hurts, isn't working, or needs to change. But knowing “I'm angry” is only the beginning. Getting curious about that anger can tell us a lot. Maybe your anger is saying: I felt dismissed. I needed someone to show up for me. I keep giving more than I'm receiving. That crossed a boundary. I'm tired of pretending this doesn't bother me. I deserved to be considered, too. When we've spent a long time being “the bigger person,” we may become really skilled at explaining everyone else's behavior. They're stressed. They didn't mean it that way. They're going through a lot. That's just how they are. And those things may even be true. But understanding why someone behaved the way they did doesn't erase the impact their behavior had on us. Both can exist. I understand you—and I'm still hurt. I can have compassion for what you're experiencing—and still need a boundary. I can love you—and recognize that something needs to change. Getting curious about anger doesn't mean letting it make every decision for us. It means giving ourselves enough space to hear the information it may be carrying. Because sometimes the question isn't: “How do I make this feeling go away?” It's: “What happened here that matters to me?” 🪶 Feather for Thought: What becomes clearer when you get curious about your anger instead of immediately trying to get rid of it? Until next time... be well. 💜 Educational purposes only. This content is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care. #ThingsWeDontTalkAbout #Anger #Boundaries #EmotionalAwareness #Relationships #Healing #FlyFree #FowlerCounseling

🌙 Things We Don't Talk About: Sometimes Anger Has a Job We often talk about anger like the goal is to make it disappear. Calm down. Let it go. Don't be angry. Move on. But anger isn't always something we need to get rid of. Sometimes anger is functional. It can help us recognize when we've been hurt. It can tell us when something matters deeply to us. It can bring our attention to a boundary that's been crossed or a situation we've tolerated for too long. And sometimes it gives us the energy to begin moving through pain rather than remaining stuck inside it. Think about the moment when: “This hurts.” starts becoming: “I don't want to keep living like this.” That's movement. Anger might motivate us to have the conversation we've been avoiding. Set a boundary. Advocate for ourselves. Ask for help. Change a pattern. Or simply admit that we want something different. How we respond to anger still matters. But we don't have to treat the emotion itself like the enemy. Sometimes anger is the part of us that finally says: “Enough. What about me?” And sometimes that little spark is exactly what gets us off the dead grass and looking for somewhere greener. 🌱 🪶 Feather for Thought: What might your anger be trying to help you change? Until next time... be well. 💜 Educational purposes only. This content is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care. #ThingsWeDontTalkAbout #Anger #FunctionalAnger #Boundaries #Healing #EmotionalHealth #FlyFree #FowlerCounseling

Tired of Being the Bigger Person... Maybe you've heard some version of: “Just be the bigger person.” Be understanding. Give them grace. Don't stoop to their level. Keep the peace. Forgive. Let it go. And sometimes choosing not to react impulsively is the healthiest thing we can do. But being “the bigger person” can become something very different when you're consistently the person expected to absorb the hurt, understand everyone else's perspective, regulate your emotions, and move on without anyone making room for what happened to you. Eventually, that gets exhausting. And sometimes... It makes us angry. Maybe you're tired. Maybe something wasn't fair. Maybe you've given more grace than you've received. Maybe you've spent so much time understanding everyone else's experience that you've stopped making room for your own. That anger doesn't automatically mean you've failed to heal, communicate, forgive, or “rise above.” Sometimes anger shows up when we've spent too long making room for everyone except ourselves. And maybe instead of immediately trying to get rid of that anger, there's something worth listening to. This week, we're talking about something we don't always give anger enough credit for: Sometimes anger has a job. 🪶 Feather for Thought: Being the bigger person shouldn't require making yourself smaller. Until next time... be well. 💜 Educational purposes only. This content is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care. #ThingsWeDontTalkAbout #BeingTheBiggerPerson #Anger #Boundaries #EmotionalHealth #FlyFree #FowlerCounseling