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Staying In your Lane

Good afternoon gentlemen ,

There comes times in our lives that we have to balance listening and responding to different things in our lives. As we grow and learn we sometimes get this overwhelming feeling to want to give out opinions on things that we know or think that we know. Even though our hearts might be in the right place but sometimes we have to know when to listen and when to respond.

As gentlemen this becomes a balancing act. Knowing when to listen and knowing when to respond. Not everything requires your response and not every situation requires your evolvement. There are many things that you might know about a situation but it might not be your place to intercede or intervene. And then there are times that we as gentlemen need to step in and get involved to prevent or deter things from getting out of control. The key is knowing when to get involved and when to refrain. One of the best way is to learn to listen so you can make a sound judgement and also knowing your limitations based on the you knowledge of the situation.

I was at one point in my life I felt that I had to voice my opinion on everything whether it was asked for or not and did not care. Then there was times I felt that I knew what I was talking about and therefore my opinion matters. But here’s the thing about knowing or thinking that you know “ with great power comes great responsibility,” if you feel the need to intervene into matters that do not directly affect you and you want to get involved and voice your opinion you need to be ready to take responsibility for what happens from that.

Now, I am not saying that if someone is being hurt that you should not get involved and voice, absolutely get involved and stop it. What I am talking about is getting involved in matters of relationships, other people’s personal lives. And one of the most dangerous things is when you do not listen and get all the information before you voice your opinions on something.

I recently seen a marriage that was destroyed because a person decided to get involved in matters that did not concern them, and because they thought that they knew the whole situation, and bases on what they heard and was told, they thought it was important enough to go to the spouse and give their thoughts on what they thought was going and and their opinion on how they should handle it.

Turns out that what this person thought they saw was not the case and cost this man his job briefly and another person their job, and then a scandal came out and accusations of infidelity came out that was never the case. And after all was said and done, man got his job back and the other person their job back, ( neither one remain at the place of employment because of the damage that was done). The man filed for divorce from his wife after she acted on what she was told and kicked him out of the house and told everyone what she thought was going on that was all a lie.

Point being, this all started because one person thought that what they figured they knew was true and felt it was their responsibility to go to the mans wife and tell her and give her advice on what she should do about it.

This person that ruined the lives of several people I’m going to send them some coupons to the bowling alley, and they need to go to the local bowling alley and practice staying in their lane.

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