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Don’t be that Guy

Good morning gentlemen,

As we all are on this journey of being gentlemen, and yes it is a journey because there will be times when you will be tested. Most of these test will come from pure jealousy, when people see you change for the better they become self conscious of themselves because of their appearance, their attitude, where they live, or what they have or have not. Whatever the case may be, their goal is to expose you as a fraud or a fake. They want show everyone that you have not changed, that you are putting on a show, that you are only doing it for a promotion, a significant other, point being you are only doing it because you have a agenda behind this change. And you do, but it’s not what they think.

The worst thing you can do is respond in a way that will get you out of your new character. They want to expose you and how you respond will determine this. We all when confronted get into that “fight or flight” mode, it’s our human nature. What they want is to draw attention to you infront of people to expose you. So how do you respond? Well you definitely don’t want to be that guy that flies off the handle yelling and screaming insults back, and you definitely don’t want to become physical with the person and get in trouble legally or hurt. So what do you do? First look at them and pause, about a three to five second pause. Why ? This first gets you out of that “fight or flight” mode. This also deflates their attack because they were waiting for you to respond immediately infront of people to expose you. So in doing so not only did you break their attack, but you also now took control of the narrative. Secondly, ask them to repeat what they said in a question form. “ Excuse me, can you repeat that?” Now you put them on the spot infront of everyone, and now the focus is on them again. Also by doing this, you are making them question is what they said appropriate, or true, and was if hurtful. They are now in the hot seat because everyone is now wandering why they said what they said.

As a gentleman we do not have to respond with negative, or vulgar words, or get physical with a person to prove our worth. “DON’T BE THAT GUY!” You are better than they are. It’s not what they call you that matter, it’s what you respond to that matters. You cannot control what someone says, but you can control how you respond. 80% of men incarcerated right now are because of words!

So what do you do? Below are some ideas that have worked for me and I hope that they will work for you. Or maybe give you some pointers on how to implement them into who you are. We are gentlemen, let’s act accordingly.

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