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Are You Understood?

Good afternoon gentlemen,

You are given the task to lead a team for a project that your company is doing, and you work on a presentation for the team. You make your presentation, and you feel that no one was listening or even cared about what you presented. Do you feel like the people that you are working with do not respect you? Do you fell that they are just jealous because the task was given you and not them?

This is something that happens all to often, the problem is not always them, or the fact that they don’t like you, or even jealous of you. Because, the truth be known, they are all probably glad that you got picked for that task and not them. So why are they acting like they do not respect you? Because it could be that they did not understand what you were relaying to the team. Sometimes we feel that in order to be a leader or to be respected that we have to use big words, or technical language in order to be respected or be important. And the reality is, this is further from the truth.

It is not that they do not like you, they cannot understand what you are saying for them to even respect you. When we fail to adjust to the audience that we are engaging we loose that communication with them, and at that point their minds start to wander when is lunch, where are they going to go for lunch, what are they going to do this weekend. Why because the moment you started using big words; or technical language beyond what they understand, they allow their minds to wander to something that brings them happiness and peace.

One of the greatest attributes that a gentleman can possess, is the ability to know the audience that are he is addressing. Having the ability to do this gives the right information, to the right people, in a manner that they can relate, understand, and respond. And this is not for just at work, but even when meeting new people, or talking to people in passing and you start having conversations with. When we start using big words to try to impress people, or words they cannot relate to; you close yourself off to them, you be come unapproachable. This is when they start finding somewhere else to be either physically or mentally. Point being they will make a way to distance themselves from you one way or another.

I remember when I first got into the medical field in the U.S. Army and I was a combat medic and also be a NCO medic, I was the lead person in the Battalion Aid station pulling sick call for the soldiers. I would have a soldiers come in and complain of having a cold, and I would prescribe Tylenol 325mg, two tablets every 4 hours, they would come back the next day complaining that it was not working, I would prescibe the same medication except this time I would use the medical terminology acetaminophen 325mg Two tablets every 4 hours. They would come back for a follow and swear that the second medication worked better than the first. Now, I know you are saying that is different; but it’s actually not, the fact of the matter is when I used different wording I got a different response. They related to a medical terminology; even tho they did not know what it meant, but to them it was something that was stronger and thus worked.

Sometimes, we can have a different approach when we use big words to get a point across, now to the other medics; they would look at me like I was crazy if I tried that with them, because they knew better. Same thing, if you want to reach people, know who you are trtying to reach and reach them on a level that they can relate and understand , then you will see that they do respect and understand you.

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