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Training Week: Day 1 Post 3: Listening goes both ways
We’ve been talking about training our children to listen.
But now we have to ask:
Are we listening too?
Some of us want our children to listen the first time, but we don’t listen until they fall apart.
We don’t listen when they say they’re tired.We don’t listen when their body is overstimulated.We don’t listen when their behavior is trying to communicate something.We don’t listen when the room is already too loud.We don’t listen when our child is asking for connection.We don’t listen when Holy Spirit is telling us to pause.We don’t listen when God is correcting our tone.We don’t listen when our spouse or support system says, “You’re doing too much.”
We keep saying, “My child doesn’t listen.”
But sometimes God is asking:
“Do you?”
And I’m not saying this to shame anyone
I’m saying it because parents need training too.
We cannot train listening while modeling ignoring.
If your child keeps melting down at the same time every day, listen to the pattern.
If your teen keeps shutting down when you start lecturing, listen to the room.
If your toddler keeps acting out when you’re on your phone, listen to the need.
If your child keeps saying, “You never hear me,” don’t dismiss it because they’re young.
Listen.
Listening does not mean the child becomes the leader.
It means the parent gathers wisdom before responding.
And yes, parents need consequences too.
Not punishment.
Consequences.
If you keep yelling, the consequence may be that you need to pause and apologize.
If you keep ignoring your child’s emotions, the consequence may be that you need to sit down and repair.
If you keep scrolling instead of being present, the consequence may be putting your phone away during certain hours.
If you keep disciplining from anger, the consequence may be stepping away before correction.
If you keep ignoring Holy Spirit’s warning in your chest, the consequence may be repentance.
Because kingdom parenting is not just about getting our children under control.
It is about submitting ourselves to God too.
So today, ask yourself:
Where have I not been listening?
A. I haven’t been listening to my child’s emotions
B. I haven’t been reading the room
C. I haven’t been listening to my child’s needs
D. I haven’t been listening to Holy Spirit
E. I haven’t been listening to my own body saying I need rest
F. I haven’t been listening when my child says I hurt their feelings
G. I haven’t been listening because I’m distracted
But we are not training children to listen while refusing to be corrected ourselves.
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Training Week: Day 1 Post 3: Listening goes both ways
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