This is the exact system I’ve been using in my home for the past 3 years. And I’m telling you right now…it works. Not sometimes. Not when I feel like it. When it’s applied consistently it works. This is the system behind: ✔ why I don’t have to keep repeating myself ✔ why I don’t have to raise my voice ✔ why my children know I mean what I say ✔ why my follow-through is strong This system has also worked for 50+ parents I’ve shared it with. This system will not work if: ❌ you’re inconsistent ❌ you don’t follow through ❌ you give up when it gets hard Because the system isn’t magic.… YOUR consistency is what makes it work. So if you’re ready… CHANGE how your home operates. https://www.thejourneytofindgod.com/build-structure-now

Father God, Even with the diagnosis… You still gave me authority. Your Word says in Book of Genesis that we are to have dominion…So I will not shrink back in my home. I will not become passive. I will not give up my position as a parent. I will hold the line. Your Word says in 2 Timothy 1:7 that You did not give me a spirit of fear… but of power, love, and a sound mind. So I reject fear. I reject confusion. I reject feeling overwhelmed. And I step into power, love, and clarity as I lead my child. Your Word says in Proverbs 22:6 to train up a child in the way they should go… So I will train them. Not just react. Not just survive the day. But train them with intention, consistency, and wisdom. Lord, give me patience when I feel triggered. Give me wisdom when I don’t know what to do. Give me consistency when I feel tired. And remind me… This child is not a mistake. They are an assignment. And You trusted me with them for a reason. So today I declare: I will lead my home. I will parent with authority. And I will not back down from what You called me to do. In Jesus’ name, Amen. If this prayer is for you today, comment: “I will hold the line.”

Some of you are not just tired…you’re bound. Bound to your past. Bound to what happened to you. Bound to old pain, old labels, old versions of yourself. And you’re still showing up every day…parenting…working…functioning… But internally?.......... you’re still in it. This reminds me of Book of John 11… When Lazarus was in the tomb. Dead.Wrapped.Buried. And Jesus stood there and said “Lazarus, come forth.” Lazarus was already alive when he came out…...but he was still wrapped. And that’s where a lot of parents are. You’re alive. You love God. You’re showing up. But you’re still wrapped in trauma wrapped in guilt wrapped in shame wrapped in what happened to you So even though you’re out… you’re not FREE..... And then Jesus said something amazing He said “Loose him, and let him go.” That means: The coming out was one step…But the UNWRAPPING was another. So Kingdom Parents..........What are you still wrapped in? Because you can’t fully show up for your children… while you’re still bound to your past. This week isn’t just about mental health…it’s about FREEDOM. And I’m calling you out of it. Not gently. Not when you “feel ready.” NOW. Come out of the guilt. Come out of the shame. Come out of the identity that says “this is just who I am.” Because you’re not who you were. And your children don’t need a perfect parent… they need a FREE one. If you’re ready to come out of it… Comment: “I’m coming out.”

Let me say this first…This is not for you to feel bad for me.....I don’t feel bad for myself. This is for you to be encouraged. Because the truth is… Life did not hand me the easiest start. I remember having a mother who was sick… Me and my sister just going from house to house. I remember being touched inappropriately. I remember losing my mom at 8 years old. I remember being placed in situations that no child should ever have to navigate. By 13… I was in a sexual relationship with a family member that lasted for years. I’ve had an abortion. I know what it feels like to be on the street trying to make money just to feed my child. I know what it feels like to have a father for your child that doesn’t want to be there. I know what it feels like to think you finally figured love out… only to realize you married a narcissist. I know pain!!!Not the surface kind. The kind that sits in your chest. The kind that rewires how you think. The kind that follows you into adulthood. So when I talk about mental health… I’m not talking from a book. I’m talking from experience. But here’s the part that matters.I had a choice. Not just as a parent… But as a person. I could stay in the place life tried to leave me in… Or I could rise.And that’s the part people don’t always talk about. Yes, feel it!!! Yes, acknowledge it!!! But do NOT stay there. Because you are not just what happened to you. The Word says in 1 John 4:4: “Greater is He that is in me, than he that is in the world.” In Romans 8:37: “We are more than conquerors…” In Isaiah 54:17: “No weapon formed against you shall prosper…” In 2 Corinthians 5:17: “If anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation…” In Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” So yeah… I went through it. I had to get it out the mud. And if you don’t know what that means… it means starting from nothing, figuring life out the hard way, surviving things that should’ve broken you, and STILL finding a way to stand And here’s what I learned:

You think you’re just angry… But it’s deeper than that. Because your child didn’t just make you mad. They touched something. That tone they used, That defiance, That ignoring you It hit a place in you that was already sensitive. And now your reaction is bigger than the moment. You're yelling, snapping, feeling like you’re about to explode That’s not just about what happened today. That’s unprocessed emotion. Stuff you never dealt with. Stuff you pushed down. Stuff you told yourself like “I’m over it.”“It doesn’t bother me anymore.” But it’s still there. So now your child does something small… And it pulls up something big. And now you’re not just responding to your child… You’re responding to your past. That’s why it feels so intense. That’s why it feels so quick. That’s why after it’s over… You feel bad. Because a part of you knows that wasn’t just about them. You’re not a bad parent. But you are a parent who has some things you haven’t processed yet. And if you don’t deal with it… It will keep showing up in your parenting. In your tone...In your patience...In your reactions So what do we do? 1. Start noticing your triggers What sets you off fast? DisrespectIgnoring youNoise That’s a clue. 2. Be honest about the root Ask yourself what does this remind me of? Because it’s usually not new… It’s familiar. 3. Slow down your response You don’t have to react immediately. Pause. Breathe. Then respond with intention. 4. Do the work outside the moment Your healing does not happen in the middle of discipline. It happens In prayer....In reflection...In counseling if needed...In honest conversations with yourself Because your child should not have to carry… What you never healed from. And hear me… God doesn’t just want to use you as a parent… He wants to heal you as a person.