About half way through this book and absolutely loving it. As a lifelong learner, I am always open and know there is always something to learn. How I love is not even close to perfect and although my relationship with B is amazing, there is always room for more growth, more understanding, better communicating and even deeper love. This book isn’t about fairy tale love or finding “the one.” It’s about learning how to show up better—for yourself, and then for the people you love. Yung Pueblo hits hard with truth after truth: If you want better love, you have to start with you. Big Takeaways 1. Your healing is your responsibility. No one’s coming to fix what someone else broke. When you take ownership of your past and stop projecting it onto your partner… that’s where real connection starts. 2. Don’t let your mouth move before your heart has a say. Reacting out of fear, insecurity, or old wounds? We’ve all been there. But love gets way easier when you learn to pause. Breathe. Then speak from clarity, not chaos. 3. Boundaries are not walls. They’re windows. The kind that let in fresh air and healthy relationships.Saying “no” doesn’t mean you love less—it means you love yourself enough to protect your peace. 4. You can be madly in love and still need space. Let’s normalize not losing yourself in someone else. Relationships work better when both people are full humans with their own lives, not half-souls looking to be completed. 5. Love is a verb. It's not just a vibe, or a warm fuzzy feeling. It’s a decision you make every single day—especially on the hard ones. (Hence my new tattoo) So how do we actually love better? Here’s your challenge: 1. Check in with you, every day. Before you pour into anyone else, ask: “How can I show up for myself today?” 2. Take 3 deep breaths before you send that spicy text. If it’s coming from your wound, it’ll cause more of them. If it’s coming from love, it’ll land better. 3. Set a boundary that feels terrifying but necessary.Say no. Don’t over-explain. Trust that your energy is worth protecting.

Do you believe that by thinking about what you want, visualizing yourself having it and feeling what it feels like to have it, that you can actually GET IT? Brian and I just finished a book called 'Into the Magic Shop' by Dr. James Doty. It was a quick listen/read and so impactful! Book Summary: Into the Magic Shop by Dr. James Doty Imagine walking into a little magic shop and learning tricks that could change your life—not card tricks, but the kind that help you create a happier, more fulfilling life. That’s exactly what happens to young James Doty when he meets Ruth, a quirky and wise woman who teaches him four "magic" lessons: how to relax, focus, dream big, and let his heart lead the way. Dr. Doty shares his incredible story of going from a tough childhood to becoming a successful neurosurgeon, all thanks to these life-changing lessons. Packed with moments of discovery, humor, and heart, this book blends neuroscience, mindfulness, and personal growth into one inspiring read. Perfect for anyone curious about how to unlock the magic in their own life, this book is a reminder that the best tricks are the ones that come from within! Anyone interested in doing a manifestation challenge? https://amzn.to/4jpcgal

Anyone interested in doing a book club for 2025? Or have any books on your list? I try to pick books each year that fall into the different Longevity Pillars. Here's mine: Relationships - Currently Finishing - Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel - great book for anyone looking to enhance and better understand their significant other. His Needs Her Needs is also on my list. Female - Generation M by Dr.Jessica Shepherd. Unexpected by Jill Carnahan, MD. Mindset - Transforming Trauma by James Gordon and Into the Magic Shop by James Doty (Thanks Sam Gerson for this thoughtful gift). Limitless by Jim Kwik. Fitness - As Many Reps as Possible by Jason Khalipa (thanks Coach Mike) Business - Good to Great by Jim Collins Please share.

I recently listened to a Certain Age podcast interview with Chip Conley, Modern Elder Academy founder and decided to buy his book!

In Outlive, Dr. Peter Attia explores the science of longevity, focusing on proactive strategies to prevent the top causes of death: heart disease, cancer, neurodegenerative diseases, and type 2 diabetes. He advocates for a comprehensive approach to well-being that goes beyond typical healthcare, promoting early intervention and personalized plans for health optimization. Attia emphasizes the importance of understanding both the science and practical aspects of living longer, healthier lives, including physical, mental, and emotional well-being. 5-7 Actions to Live Better, Longer, and Healthier Lives from Outlive: 1. Prioritize Strength and Mobility: Engage in regular strength training and mobility exercises to maintain muscle mass and physical function. This helps prevent injuries and supports longevity. 2. Focus on Cardiovascular Health: Incorporate aerobic exercise into your routine to improve heart health and reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease. 3. Monitor and Manage Blood Sugar: Pay attention to your diet and lifestyle to maintain healthy blood sugar levels, which can reduce the risk of type 2 diabetes and metabolic issues. 4. Get Regular Screenings: Take a proactive approach to health by getting regular screenings for cancer, heart disease, and other major health conditions to catch potential problems early. 5. Optimize Sleep Quality: Prioritize sleep hygiene by sticking to a regular sleep schedule, creating a sleep-conducive environment, and managing stress for better overall health and recovery. 6. Develop Mental Resilience: Practice mindfulness, meditation, or other mental health strategies to manage stress and improve emotional well-being. Mental health is a key component of overall longevity. 7. Adopt a Personalized Approach: Understand that each person's health journey is unique. Tailor your diet, exercise, and lifestyle to your individual needs, and consider consulting with experts for a personalized longevity plan. Peter shares exercises based on scientific research that you can do in order to live a healthier life and not start declining after the age of 50. Grab your copy of the book and check out this video where he goes into detail on The Centenarian Decathlon.