Apr 22 • Book Club
How to Love Better - Yung Pueblo
About half way through this book and absolutely loving it. As a lifelong learner, I am always open and know there is always something to learn. How I love is not even close to perfect and although my relationship with B is amazing, there is always room for more growth, more understanding, better communicating and even deeper love.
This book isn’t about fairy tale love or finding “the one.”
It’s about learning how to show up better—for yourself, and then for the people you love.
Yung Pueblo hits hard with truth after truth: If you want better love, you have to start with you.
Big Takeaways
1. Your healing is your responsibility. No one’s coming to fix what someone else broke. When you take ownership of your past and stop projecting it onto your partner… that’s where real connection starts.
2. Don’t let your mouth move before your heart has a say. Reacting out of fear, insecurity, or old wounds? We’ve all been there. But love gets way easier when you learn to pause. Breathe. Then speak from clarity, not chaos.
3. Boundaries are not walls. They’re windows. The kind that let in fresh air and healthy relationships.Saying “no” doesn’t mean you love less—it means you love yourself enough to protect your peace.
4. You can be madly in love and still need space. Let’s normalize not losing yourself in someone else. Relationships work better when both people are full humans with their own lives, not half-souls looking to be completed.
5. Love is a verb. It's not just a vibe, or a warm fuzzy feeling. It’s a decision you make every single day—especially on the hard ones. (Hence my new tattoo)
So how do we actually love better?
Here’s your challenge:
1. Check in with you, every day. Before you pour into anyone else, ask: “How can I show up for myself today?”
2. Take 3 deep breaths before you send that spicy text. If it’s coming from your wound, it’ll cause more of them. If it’s coming from love, it’ll land better.
3. Set a boundary that feels terrifying but necessary.Say no. Don’t over-explain. Trust that your energy is worth protecting.
4. Stop dating your triggers. Start dating your peace. Pay attention to the patterns you keep repeating. You can’t heal what you won’t name.
5. Tell your people you love them—with specifics. Not “you’re great.” Try: “You make me feel safe when you listen like that.” That stuff lands. It sticks.
This book doesn’t hand you the keys to perfect love - it hands you a mirror - OUCH. And if you’re brave enough to look, you just might find the version of you who’s been ready to love—better, deeper, truer—all along.
Let me know if you plan to add this one to your list.
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How to Love Better - Yung Pueblo
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