Let's get to know each other! Comment below sharing where you are in the world, a photo of you , and something you like to do for fun. 😊 This post contains important information about getting the most out of this community, so please read through everything before you start. 👓 ✨ Read Through Our Community Guidelines ✨ First and foremost, please read through our Community Guidelines to ensure this remains a valuable, supportive space for everyone. Quick Summary: - Be respectful and kind - No soliciting or self-promotion - Keep it relevant to dating/relationships - Protect privacy - no sharing screenshots - What's shared here, stays here 📈 How To Earn Points, Level Up & Unlock Rewards 📈 Our community is designed around participation. You'll unlock new resources and perks as you engage, support, and help other members. How Points Work: - One 'like' = One point - The more you interact and contribute quality content, the more points you earn - Your level is shown at the bottom right of your avatar picture - Points needed for next level shown under your avatar on your profile page 💎 Important Note About DMs 💎 The ability to DM other community members is unlocked at Level 2 (Cotton). So if you want to stay connected and build relationships in this community, start earning your first points now! Please contact me with any comments, suggestions, or questions. I read everything! Let's reboot your love life together, Dessi 💕

It's not what you might think... What actually makes a relationship last? Most people think it’s chemistry. Or timing. Or luck. But if you’ve dated for any length of time, you already know—that’s not enough. In our upcoming session, What to Look for in a Partner: 12 Must-Have Qualities, we’re going to cut through the noise and focus on what actually matters when you’re looking for a real, lasting relationship. *********************** When: Tuesday, May 5th at 6 PM EDT Where: Register to receive the link via email. The session is online over Zoom. *********************** Here’s what we’ll explore together: - The difference between emotional maturity and potential (and why this one trips people up) - How to recognize real compatibility vs. wishful thinking - The green flags you can trust—and the red flags you shouldn’t explain away - How to move beyond chemistry and start making clearer, more grounded choices This is not about creating a long checklist. It’s about learning how to see people more clearly—so you can stop guessing and start choosing. If you’re serious about finding a meaningful relationship and want to approach dating with more clarity, intention, and confidence, this session will give you a practical framework you can use right away. I’d love to have you there. Warmly, Dessi Book a Free Consultation

This is a bi-weekly call for Premium members, where we open the floor for your questions, dating dilemmas, and personal experiences. If you’re feeling stuck, discouraged, or unsure how to move forward in your dating or social life right now, this could be your unlock. A lot of people here are navigating: • Letting go of the past • Rebuilding confidence • Trying to meet new people without it feeling exhausting • Wanting connection, but not knowing where to start That’s exactly why I created The Dating Reboot. This is a small group setting where we go beyond surface-level advice and actually work through emotional healing, confidence, communication, and building real momentum, step by step, together. Last time we talked about the Judge Saboteur — the voice that criticizes you, doubts others, and keeps you stuck in loops of second-guessing and self-protection. These mental patterns quietly drive your thoughts, reactions, and decisions, especially in dating. . If you recognize yourself in any of this, join us: 🗓 Tonight – April Dating Reboot Call ⏰ (6 PM EDT) ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PS: This call is for Members of The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier). Check out our plans here. Warmly, Dessi

Starting tomorrow, we’re introducing something new inside The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier)! We’ll be working with the principles of Positive Intelligence — not as theory, but as a way to understand how we show up in our dating lives and the choices we make. Because most of what creates frustration in dating isn’t out there. It's internal. It's patterned. And often, it’s invisible. Over the next year, each month, we’ll focus on one of the 10 Saboteurs — the internal voices and patterns that quietly shape how we think, feel, and act: The Judge, the Pleaser, the Victim, the Hyper-Vigilant, the Avoider etc. How they show up in dating. How they influence attraction, chemistry, and decision making. How they keep us stuck in familiar cycles. And most importantly, how to become aware of them, interrupt them, and begin to shift. We are starting with The Judge - The universal saboteur. This work is about seeing clearly. And from that place, making different choices. Join Premium today - only $27/mo or $197 for a full year. Prices go up in May. See you inside!

Hi everyone, Thank you again to those of you who joined us for The Blueprint to Dating in Midlife session. It was a rich conversation, and if you were there live, you probably felt how universal so many of the experiences were. Frustration. Confusion. Fatigue. Hope. If you missed any part of it, or want to revisit the key ideas, you can watch the replay here: CLICK HERE FOR REPLAY A few things that stood out from the session: - Most people are trying to fix dating at the level of strategy - where to meet people, what to say, how to text. - But the deeper shift happens at the level of identity. - Who you are being when you date, how you show up → shapes who you attract → and what you ultimately experience. We also introduced a more intentional way to approach dating: Scouting → Sorting → Screening → Testing A structure that helps you protect your time, your energy, and your heart— while still staying open to connection. If you’re ready to go deeper, here are a few ways to work with us: With me (Dessi): • Private 1:1 Coaching • Upcoming 12-week Group Program (starting May 4th) You can book a complimentary call with me here to see which is the best fit: https://calendly.com/dschachne/30min With Moshe: You can learn more or reach out to him here: https://www.coachmoshe.com/ Take your time with the replay. And if one idea stays with you, let it be this: You don't control the timing, but you do control if and how you participate in the dating process. Talk soon, Dessi