Earlier, trust was pre-qualified. Now attention is open access and you pay the screening cost. The real skill today isn’t networking—it’s ruthless curation of who gets your time. Do you know who you are looking for? What are your must-haves, nice-to-haves and your deal breakers? Curious what people think of this evolution and what that means for your dating strategy.

This is a bi-weekly call for Premium members, where we open the floor for your questions, dating dilemmas, and personal experiences. If you’re feeling stuck, discouraged, or unsure how to move forward in your dating or social life right now, this could be your unlock. A lot of people here are navigating: • Letting go of the past • Rebuilding confidence • Trying to meet new people without it feeling exhausting • Wanting connection, but not knowing where to start That’s exactly why I created The Dating Reboot. This is a small group setting where we go beyond surface-level advice and actually work through emotional healing, confidence, communication, and building real momentum, step by step, together. Starting tonight, we’re also introducing the Positive Intelligence (PQ) framework into our work. What that means in real terms is this: we’re going to start looking at the mental patterns that quietly drive your thoughts, reactions, and decisions — especially in dating. Each month, we’ll unpack one of these patterns, what PQ calls SABOTEURS, and how they show up in your life, your relationships, and your dating experience. We’re starting tonight with the Judge — the voice that criticizes you, doubts others, and keeps you stuck in loops of second-guessing and self-protection. If you recognize yourself in any of this, join us: 🗓 Tonight – April Dating Reboot Call ⏰ (6 PM EDT) PS: This call is for Members of The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier). Check out our plans here. Warmly, Dessi

Starting tomorrow, we’re introducing something new inside The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier)! We’ll be working with the principles of Positive Intelligence — not as theory, but as a way to understand how we show up in our dating lives and the choices we make. Because most of what creates frustration in dating isn’t out there. It's internal. It's patterned. And often, it’s invisible. Over the next year, each month, we’ll focus on one of the 10 Saboteurs — the internal voices and patterns that quietly shape how we think, feel, and act: The Judge, the Pleaser, the Victim, the Hyper-Vigilant, the Avoider etc. How they show up in dating. How they influence attraction, chemistry, and decision making. How they keep us stuck in familiar cycles. And most importantly, how to become aware of them, interrupt them, and begin to shift. We are starting with The Judge - The universal saboteur. This work is about seeing clearly. And from that place, making different choices. Join Premium today - only $27/mo or $197 for a full year. Prices go up in May. See you inside!

Dating isn’t just about chemistry, timing, or even compatibility. It’s about emotional availability: our ability to recognize our own level of emotional availability, as well as how available others are, without making it mean something about us. In a recent group session with my premium members we discovered something quite interesting: Most people aren’t struggling with dating per se... They’re struggling with interpretation. 💥 Read the full article here. LMK in the comments which of the 6 insights resonated the most.