Hi everyone, I hope you are all having a great summer! I have some exciting news! I am hosting a new and improved Mix and Mingle on July 28th 7-8:30PM ET. The feedback from the first one was incredible, but there was one request I heard over and over: "Can you match us better?" For our July 28 Mix & Mingle, we are using an automated matching system that groups people by age and location, so you're much more likely to spend your evening talking with people you would want to meet again for coffee, a walk, or maybe something more. How to register: 1. SIGN UP HERE - $25 Early-bird until midnight July 21st | $30 after 2. COMPLETE THE MATCHING FORM - it takes 2 minutes, and it's how we build your rooms. Please note: Paid Premium members of my community on here attend for FREE (check your membership details). DM me for the Zoom link. You still need to complete the form above. Here's what to expect: ✔️ Meet 12–15 new singles (men and women) over 50 in small, relaxed groups ✔️ Meaningful conversations instead of awkward speed dating ✔️ Connect for friendships and dating opportunities—both are welcome Mutual matches receive a personal email introduction afterward. If you're 50+ and ready to meet genuinely great people, I'd love to have you join us. Early-bird pricing ends July 21, and spaces are limited to keep the groups small and the conversations meaningful. ➡️ Comment below if you are interested in attending, and lmk what would make this event a 10 out of 10 for you. 💛 Love, Dessi READ the Recap Post from the last Mix and Mingle here.

Our Premium Member Call is July 7th at 6 PM EDT - See Calendar for link. This is a bi-weekly call, where we open the floor for your questions, dating dilemmas, and personal experiences. Last month, we talked about the PLEASER SABOTEUR — the voice that criticizes you, doubts others, and keeps you stuck in loops of second-guessing and self-protection. This month, we are discussing the HYPER-VIGILANT: always scanning for danger, protecting you from getting hurt, rejected, or blindsided. Often, mistakes uncertainty for danger. These mental patterns quietly drive your thoughts, reactions, and decisions, especially in dating. 🗓 July 7th Dating Reboot Call ⏰ (6 PM EDT). Comment below on how the Hypervigilant might show up in your dating life. It might look like: - Looking for red flags before you've gathered enough information. - Assuming the worst - Struggling to relax or be present on dates because you're evaluating everything. - Interpreting ambiguity as rejection. - ...we unpack all this and more. If you recognize yourself in any of this, join us! PLUS: I am giving away a SPECIAL GIFT to anyone who attends the meeting tonight - It's my new interactive Dating Decision Scorecard - don't miss this!!! Warmly, Dessi ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PS: This call is for Members of The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier). If you wish to join, click here. _____________________________________________________

Hi everyone, One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is dating the wrong people and staying in relationships too long with the wrong partner. That's why I created 💜 THE DATING DECISION SCORECARD. It's a free interactive tool that helps you evaluate someone after your first three dates. Instead of relying on chemistry alone, it helps you reflect on things that actually predict relationship success: - Is attraction growing—or fading? - Do you feel emotionally safe around them? - Are they genuinely curious about you? - Are your values aligned? - Are there red flags you're rationalizing? - How did you feel after the date—not just during it? - What is your nervous system trying to tell you? The scorecard even gives you an overall recommendation: 🟢 Continue Dating 🟡 Keep Exploring (but don't become exclusive yet) 🟠 Slow Down and Gather More Information 🔴 Not Aligned And at the end, you'll receive a personalized analysis of your results to help you make a clearer decision. The goal is to help you date with more intention, trust yourself, and avoid getting swept away by chemistry before you've gathered enough information. Try it here: Dating Decision Scorecard. I'd genuinely love your feedback. If you use it after a date, hit reply and let me know: - What did you find most helpful? - What's missing? - What surprised you? I'm continuing to refine it, and your feedback will help make it even better.

Our Premium Member Call is July 7th at 6 PM EDT - See Calendar for link. This is a bi-weekly call, where we open the floor for your questions, dating dilemmas, and personal experiences. Last month, we talked about the PLEASER SABOTEUR — the voice that criticizes you, doubts others, and keeps you stuck in loops of second-guessing and self-protection. This month, we are discussing the HYPER-VIGILANT: always scanning for danger, protecting you from getting hurt, rejected, or blindsided. Often, mistakes uncertainty for danger. These mental patterns quietly drive your thoughts, reactions, and decisions, especially in dating. 🗓 July 7th Dating Reboot Call ⏰ (6 PM EDT). Comment below on how the Hypervigilant might show up in your dating life. It might look like: - Looking for red flags before you've gathered enough information. - Assuming the worst - Struggling to relax or be present on dates because you're evaluating everything. - Interpreting ambiguity as rejection. - ...we unpack all this and more. If you recognize yourself in any of this, join us! Warmly, Dessi ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PS: This call is for Members of The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier). If you wish to join, click here. _____________________________________________________

Because they filter your options, often without you noticing them. When you name a belief, you reclaim your agency, and your power to choose reappears. Pick one situation today that feels difficult and identify the belief beneath it (this practice can sometimes be a little uncomfortable). USE THE AIR FRAMEWORK - Awareness: What belief is driving your choice in this moment? - Inquiry: Where did this belief come from? How has it served you? How is it trying to protect you? - Reframing: What’s a more helpful belief you can try today? TODAY'S EXPERIMENT Research suggests that writing down your beliefs can help you reduce stress and improve your well-being. Open the note you started on your phone yesterday and write one limiting belief in a single sentence (“I believe that…”). Then write a helpful alternate version that makes you feel safer and expands your choices. Hit Reply and tell me the old line, the new one, or both.