This is your invitation to a 30 Day Online Dating Challenge. PLEASE READ UNTIL THE END. "Dating Sunday" (the first Sunday in January) is known as the busiest day of the year for online dating!! If you’ve been thinking about dating again but feel hesitant, out of practice, or quietly overwhelmed, this is for you. Rather than letting that feel intimidating, I’m inviting you to approach it differently this year. More slowly. More intentionally. More like you. This 30-day Challenge is not about finding “the one” in a month. It’s about re-entering connection while caring for your nervous system and developing new sustainable habits for the long run. We’ll start by creating or refreshing your dating profile using my new Online Dating Strategist GPT (just launched in beta). It will help you create or optimize your online dating profile(s), polish your language, analyze your photos, and provide recommendations. It's designed to present you in a way that feels authentic, while magnetizing the right matches and screening out the wrong ones. CAVEAT: I know that AI is not for everyone, and it has its limitations. But I encourage you to try it out. It’s great for idea generation and pointing out blind spots, and wordsmithing your bio (for those who are not natural copywriters). If you still prefer a human touch, please book a Dating Profile Makeover with me. From there, we’ll focus on simple, sustainable practices: • Starting conversations without overthinking • Staying regulated while messaging and matching • Not attaching too fast or disappearing when unsure • Learning to date from curiosity instead of fear Each week has a gentle theme. Each day includes a short reflection or invitation. Nothing time consuming. No pressure to perform. You can participate quietly or share in the community if that feels supportive. This is especially for those of you who are starting a new chapter after divorce, loss, or a long break from dating. You don’t need to “catch up.” You don’t need to reinvent yourself. You just need a safe place to begin again.

I know that many of you are taking this week off from the usual routines and to-dos. Perhaps you're taking stock of the past year and assessing the path you have walked. Remember that you've accomplished a lot. Even if it doesn't feel like it. Remember, you are worthy of love. You are worthy of appreciation. And are WORTHY of feeling like you've done enough. Take time for yourself and celebrate how far you've come. No matter where you are. 💜 Dessi xo

Not listening to music today, but I enjoyed hearing Laughey. Watching the movie American Psycho. Have never seen it before. Quite peculiar. Worth watching to see what ever happens.

Today is your invitation to set yourself free, even if just for a few minutes. Free from old stories. Free from “shoulds. Free from who you’ve been trying to be to please others. Free from people and relationships that no longer serve us. Music has a way of unlocking what words can’t. One song can remind us who we are, what we’re ready to release, or what we’re stepping into next. 🎶 👉 Your turn: Post one song that symbolizes how you feel right now or how you want to feel as you set yourself free. Let this be your moment to claim a little more space, truth, and joy. I’ll start in the comments. 💃 Happy Freedom Friday 💥

"It don't make sense to let love pass you by." Don't let love get you down By Archie Bell & The Drells.