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Hey there, Let me give you an answer to the question that might cross your mind: āWhat is a man doing in this group?ā Itās a bit hard to explain, so Iāll keep it short: I am a man, but I never really felt like one in the traditional sense. Iāve always been very emotional and empathetic, but in our society, itās still not considered āokayā for a man to be soft, expressive, or to cry. (I was a crybaby until mid-high school.) For a long time, I identified as female - privately, and only shared that with a few people. But even that didnāt fully fit. Over the years, Iāve worked a lot on my thoughts, identity, and emotions. I embraced what people might call my āfeminine side,ā and I found that I connect far better with women than with men - especially when it comes to topics like love, trust, self-improvement, art, beauty, and the future. Now Iām at peace with myself, partly thanks to a wonderful person (letās call her F). She helped me accept who I am and appreciate the positive things I can bring to the world as a man. One of them is inspiring my male friends to be softer, kinder, and more open - and reminding my female friends that there are trustworthy men out there. Interestingly, F has lived the opposite experience: she always felt more like a man for her own reasons. Sheās in a self-building phase right now, and I would really love to give back what she gave me. To help her embrace her feminine side and understand that she can be herself, no matter where she falls on the spectrum of gender. I feel that the knowledge shared in this group could help both me and F grow - and who knows, maybe some of my insights could be helpful for you too. Thank you so much for reading! And one last thing: This is a safe space for women, and I respect that fully. So if even one member feels uncomfortable with a man being here, I will leave without hesitation. No hard feelings at all. Have a lovely day! ⨠Alex