Validation Goes Both Ways!

We often think of validation as something we offer in moments of pain—to acknowledge someone’s struggle or hurt. And while that’s important, validation is just as crucial for the good emotions: the hopeful, joyful, and positive ones.

How often do we unconsciously dismiss the good moments without realizing it? Someone shares their excitement, and we respond with something neutral like, “That’s nice,” or quickly shift the focus. It’s not intentional, but it cuts short the joy they’re experiencing.

Validation isn’t just about comforting someone in hard times; it’s about letting them marinate in the oxytocin that comes from positive feelings. When someone shares a win, a dream, or a spark of hope, our validation amplifies that moment. It allows them to stay in that space longer, soaking up the feel-good emotions that fuel connection, creativity, and resilience.

So the next time someone shares their joy or excitement, pause. Lean in. Match their energy. Say, “That’s amazing!” or “I’m so happy for you—tell me more!” Watch how their face lights up when you allow them to fully experience the moment.

Life isn’t just about working through the struggles—it’s about celebrating the wins. Validation creates space for both, and it deepens the relationships we care about most. Because when we validate the good, we’re not just encouraging positivity—we’re strengthening bonds and creating lasting memories.

Let the people around you know it’s okay to feel good. Celebrate with them, cheer them on, and give them the gift of being fully seen in both the hard and the beautiful moments.

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