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Gossip

Gossip is a slow-acting poison—subtle, yet destructive. It shifts perceptions, plants doubt, and breaks trust before we even realize the damage. But why do we do it?

At its core, gossip feeds psychological needs—it creates connection, gives a sense of control, and can even provide a temporary ego boost.

✔ Belonging: Sharing inside info makes us feel included.

✔ Control: Talking about others gives a false sense of power.

✔ Ego Boost: Tearing someone down can feel like leveling ourselves up.

But here’s the catch—the same thing that creates temporary connection also creates long-term disconnection.

➡ Gossip Rewires How We See Others

Even as a listener, your brain absorbs gossip as fact. Negative info sticks, shaping how we perceive people—even without direct experience.

➡ It Breeds Fear & Erodes Trust

The moment someone spills another’s business, they reveal how they’ll handle yours. People listen, but they’re also making a mental note: If they talk about them, they’ll talk about me.

➡ It Becomes a Self-Sabotaging Cycle

Gossipers may feel powerful in the moment, but over time, they become the least trusted. Their credibility weakens, leaving them stuck in shallow relationships.

If we want real connection, real influence, and real leadership, we have to break the cycle:

💡 Be a vault—if it’s not yours to tell, don’t tell it.

💡 Speak directly—if there’s an issue, address it with the person, not about them.

💡 Check your intentions—why do you feel the need to share it?

Trust and integrity build lasting relationships. If we’re serious about depth, we have to be intentional about what we allow in our conversations.

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