It’s was my first overnight with my daughter (w/oit her mom here) Piper last night in 2 years. Woke up early and straightened up the aftermath of a tornado that came through each room in my apartment. lol. So grateful guys!!

I remember sitting in a high-stakes board meeting years ago. We had charts. We had projections. We had a clear strategy for the next ten years. I felt powerful. I felt in control. Then I went home. I walked through the door and had no clue what my kids were worried about. I didn't know what my wife needed from me that week. I was a lion in the market. But I was a ghost in my own home. After I lost everything and faced the silence of my own failure, I saw the truth. I had built a fortune but neglected the foundation. I realized I needed to treat my family with the same respect I gave my business partners. I didn't turn my house into an office. But I did bring the principles of leadership to the dinner table. We started a weekly meeting. Just 15 minutes. We ask three simple questions. "What was your win? What was your struggle? How can I support you?" My family stopped drifting. We started moving together. You have the skills. You run teams. You manage millions. You solve complex problems all day long. Bring that skill set home. Your family is waiting for you to lead. The Drill 1. This week ask your family the 3 questions from the story during dinner. 2. Listen more than you speak. 3. Write down one thing you can do to support them.

There is a voice inside your head that is slowly killing your legacy. It sounds like your friend. It sounds logical. It sounds "reasonable." It says things like: "You had a hard day at the office." "You can play with them tomorrow." "It’s too late to go to the park." This is the voice of the Passenger. It is the voice of the average man drifting through the life he is funding but not living. I lived with this voice for years. I let "reason" dictate my actions. I thought if I just provided enough, if I just won the legal battles, if I just checked the boxes, I would be a good father. I was wrong. I was a spectator in my own tragedy. The Crucible of Loss taught me that time does not bargain. It takes. Great moments with our children are not guaranteed. They are not renewable resources. They happen once. They are lightning strikes. If you are not a lightning rod, you miss the energy. When those spur-of-the-moment opportunities arise, "reasonable" is your enemy. Reasonable leads to a quiet house and a distant relationship. Reasonable leads to Sunday afternoon regret. You must be intentional. Intentionality is often unreasonable. It requires you to summon energy you do not think you have. It requires you to destroy the humdrum routine and build a monument in its place. If your kid wants to wrestle five minutes before bed, you wrestle. If they want to see the moon at 2 AM, you get up. You turn the ordinary into the extraordinary. The world is full of reasonable fathers who have great excuses and no relationship with their sons. Do not be one of them. Stop listening to the soul-sucking voice of comfort. Start listening to the call of duty. THE DRILL: 1. The Pattern Interrupt: Catch yourself in the middle of a routine tonight. Stop. Change the energy. 2. The Physical Pivot: If you are sitting, stand up. If you are inside, go outside. Change your state so you can lead theirs. 3. Epic Macro-Challenge: For the next 24 hours, you are not allowed to say "maybe" or "later." It is either a hard "No" or an enthusiastic "Yes."

You know the feeling. It sits in your gut while you watch football or scroll through your phone. It is the sinking realization that another weekend is gone. You are about to start another week as a Passenger in a life you are paying for. I lived in that regret for a long time. I was the Disconnected Provider. I worked hard. I made money. But I was losing the war for my family because I refused to take command. I let the system run me over because I didn't have a plan of my own. I was the bankroll but I was not the King. When you fail to plan you create a vacuum of leadership. Chaos rushes in to fill that vacuum. Your wife feels the weight of the unchecked schedule. Your children feel the tension in the air. You eventually explode in anger or check out into your phone because you feel overwhelmed. Clarity beats overwhelm every single time. The world will gladly consume your time if you do not defend it. If you do not assign a mission to your money, your time, and your energy, someone else will. You cannot build a Legacy on accident. You have to forge it. That starts with the brutal truth of where you are right now. Look at your bank account. Look at your body. Look at your marriage. If you don't like what you see, change the plan. This is why we do the Sunday Reset. It is not a time to relax. It is a time to reload. You must audit your performance. Where were you weak? Where did you drift? If you missed it this week, do it now. A late map is better than no map. The Drill 1. Audit the Four Pillars (Vault, Temple, Kingdom, Chalice). Grade yourself 1-5 on last week's effort. 2. Define your "Big 3" targets for the rest of the week. 3. Schedule a date night. If the Kingdom isn't strong, nothing else matters.

Every single day, millions of sons grow up feeling invisible to the one man whose approval matters most. It's a quiet tragedy happening in homes everywhere. If you're a father, the difference between raising a confident man and leaving a wounded boy is intentionality. Your son doesn't just need your presence; he needs your recognition. Are you really seeing him? What does every son desperately need from his father? This isn't feel-good theory; it's the blueprint for building unshakeable confidence. Most fathers have no idea they are missing five critical elements that determine whether their son thrives or just survives. The goal is to move beyond the 'nice memory' and build a soul that can weather any storm. When was the last time your son looked at you with genuine excitement? Not because of a gift, but because you chose him. We often fail not through lack of love, but through lack of presence. There are five pillars—Time, Skills, Direction, Conviction, and Heart—that create the foundation of a man. Missing even one creates a void that the world will try to fill with garbage. Quality time is the first essential, but it’s not just sitting in the same room. I’m talking about intentional experiences: mountain climbing, building projects, or special trips. These are the foundation stones of his identity. These moments put weight into your son’s soul, steadying him for the future. He needs to know you aren't there because you have to be, but because you want to be. Here is what happens in his mind during quality time: He stops thinking 'My dad loves me because he has to' and starts thinking 'My dad actually likes being around me.' When a son knows his father genuinely enjoys his company, he develops an unshakeable sense of worth. Do you enjoy your son, or is he just another task on your to-do list? We have outsourced our sons’ education to YouTube and schools. It’s not enough. Your son shouldn’t be standing helplessly under a car hood at eighteen. When you teach him practical life skills—from changing oil to tying a tie—you are telling him: 'I believe you can handle real responsibility.' Competence is the precursor to confidence.