So I had signed up online to go to this event called, “Valentines Day Sample Party” but there wasn’t much information on it just said that they have music, drinks etc. so I was a bit skeptical on going but I wanted to experience something different so I went last night to this party. On my way to the party, I felt nervous because I felt excitement and concerned at the same time because this area of my life called “Dating” was still new to me and I was not used to it especially the whole Valentine Day thing. And concerned for what might happen because I be stepping into the unknown not knowing what to expect and not have any control. So I got to the party and I have to sign up but then they ask me to sign this small “waiver” saying I be sampling products that might get me drunk and wouldn’t be able to operate my vehicle I was like ok haha. The people there were friendly and one lady approached me asking me if I knew what was going on I told her no and she said it’s a sampling event so the chicken wings and pastries here have stuff on them that could get me “HIGH” and to just be mindful of that and telling me about the drinks and so forth. Immediately after 20 mins passed though, I just left. This didn’t feel like my scene, the people weren’t the problem it was the space of the party was too short for a sold out event and obviously I didn’t know they be planning on getting high which what I don’t do. There was a lady sitting across from me but I didn’t plan on making conversation with her when I already had made up my mind about leaving. This event was not what was expecting or hoping for so I just took off. I am glad that I atleast took the initiative to go to the party and try to put myself out there but it could of been better and maybe I could of handled it better too but there you go. However, this is only the first part of my Valentine Day journey, I still plan to attend other events before February 14th! So there is still time 😌

Hey guys! Happy Fri-yay 🤭 Most men say they want to work on themselves But what they really mean is “I want dating to stop feeling stressful” So let’s make it simple When you like a woman, 1 of 3 things usually breaks down And THAT’S where you start 1) Your nervous system If your body goes into panic around women you’re into, you’ll sabotage without realizing it 👉🏻Overthinking 👉🏻Overtexting 👉🏻Trying to impress 👉🏻Freezing up 👉🏻Settling for “safe” conversations What to work on: Practice being calm while still showing interest That’s confidence Mini challenge for this week: Next time you feel anxious, do this before you talk to her Slow breath in Slow breath out Drop your shoulders Relax your jaw Then speak Your MAIN GOAL IS TO BE PRESENT 2) Your standards A lot of men chase because they don’t have a clear filter. So any attention feels like “this might be my chance” 👉🏻Then you tolerate mixed signals 👉🏻You over invest early 👉🏻You lose yourself trying to keep her What to work on: Get clear on what you want so you stop choosing from desperation Quick prompt: 👉🏻A woman I choose has… 👉🏻A woman I avoid has… If you can’t name these, you’ll keep repeating the same pattern 3) Your social confidence Confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill built through reps If you only “practice” when it’s a woman you really like, it will always feel high pressure. So you need low pressure reps. What to work on: 👉🏻Talk to people daily with no agenda 👉🏻Build comfort with eye contact, small talk, and leading a conversation Mini reps 👉🏻Ask someone for a recommendation 👉🏻Compliment someone and keep walking 👉🏻Start a 30 second convo and end it first Your real starting point: Pick the ONE that feels most true for you right now 👉🏻If dating makes you anxious start with nervous system 👉🏻If you keep chasing the wrong women start with standards 👉🏻If you avoid approaching start with social reps Comment 1, 2, or 3 and I’ll tell you exactly what to focus on first based on your answer

So I matched with this lady on a dating app on the weekend. Here's the conversation: Me: Hey [Insert name here]! I've gotta ask. Pineapple on Pizza is ok right? Don't wanna fall out on the first message ;) Her: I dont like pineapple wbu Me: Haha that's fair! I like Pineapple, but no I wouldn't put it on Pizza. Pepperoni absolutely. What's your go to? Her:Meat feast x Me:Ah good choice. So what do you like to do for fun in your spare time? Her:Im a mum Honestly, I haven't even responded as soon as I saw the reply it made me laugh quite hard tbh. This is what you call time to move on as the energy is not matched. Buh bye!

Once again I have a meaningful conversation with my favorite occupational therapy assistant while she gives me therapy on my right hand. Always enjoy our conversations. Gives me something to look forward to in my life. No stress just going with the flow. 😌 Me: So how was your weekend? Izzy: It was good how about yours? Me: Just worked really. Did you do anything fun? Izzy: Well I have a lot of homework to do and my cousin came over to visit me from her college to hang out. We’re pretty close. Me: You seem to be pretty close with your cousins from what I’m seeing huh. Izzy: Yeah my sister, my cousin and brother all 4 of us grew up together. Me: Wow but tell me more do you feel like you can confide in her about stuff? Izzy: Yes my cousin is like my sister in a way. Me: Cool, how’s your classes going? Izzy: Have all these quizzes and reading material to go over so that will be a lot of fun. Me: Yeah that sounds like a lot of paperwork haha. Izzy: haha yeah. Me: Well I hope you’re able to get your homework done! Izzy: Thank you! Hey could you email the front desk the picture we all took together on the day of your birthday? Me: Sure thing! Hey Izzy, whose the cool girl on the right here? (Shows her the pic and she sees herself on the right 😆) Izzy: Oh god hahaha (walks away laughing) Me: giggles 🤭

Hey ya'll. TGIF I have decided to make fridays the day I post something I would love to call the "Golden Nugget". A nugget that will help you move the needle forward when it comes to dating. Quick awareness check for your dating life!! Answer these honestly: 1. Who was the last person I was interested in? 2. What action did I take? (Not what I thought about doing.) 3. Did I show clear interest… or did I play it safe? 4. What excuse did I use? 5. Have I used this excuse before? Key question: 👉 Is my dating life shaped by intention… or by avoidance that sounds like logic? Feel free to share and comment your answers and reflection down below!