How do you choose whether or not to give a new dish a shot? 1. How it looks. 2. How it smells. If the chef run up to you and started attacking you for not picking up his best dish at a buffet, and it looked like goop, you would be confused why he thought you would ever pick it. “Cause it’s delicious!” “How am I supposed to know that?!?” Now ask yourself, how is anyone supposed to know about you? Your personality that slowly unfolds over experiences and many interactions are you at a deeper level, sure. But who has the time to do that with everyone? If you’re goal is to be more out there, or be treated a certain way, look and smell the part. We instinctively interpret actions and behaviors in the context of appearance anyway. Example: One time someone built like a Greek god approached me to kindly adjust my form while squatting to avoid injury, did he have to explain to me how he knows what he’s talking about? No. His proof was written on his chiseled pecs. So I quickly adjusted and did what he told me. A good scent can also help you be perceived better, I personally experienced this in many situations where others or myself wore something and the interactions were noticeably different from guys and girls.

Years ago, I used to be REALLY good at remembering people's names. And every time I did, I could tell it genuinely made people feel seen and made me come off as more likable! But recently that skill has been fading, so for the past couple years I've been trying to find a fool-proof way to remember names, and I've finally found something that works! For context, in the last 2 days, I started a new job, and met 25+ new people, and I can remember (almost) all of their names - here is the process that worked: 1. As soon as I hear the person's name, I say it as many times as the conversation will allow - for example, if someone says "Hey, my name is Alex," I would say "Hey Alex, nice to meet you." And then at the end of the conversation, I'd also say, "Well, Alex, it was great, I'll see you around." (This makes sure I remember the name right after the conversation ends.) 2. Then once I'm done talking, I pull out my phone and write their name down in my notes app - I find that typing it helps me remember things way better, plus it lets me look back over it later. 3. And now to make sure I don't just have a list of names, I do a little mental exercise. For 5 seconds, I imagine the person's face, with the name floating above their head. Sometimes I even imagine a play on words for their name ex. I met a guy named Prince, so I imagined him wearing a crown. This helps me match the face to the name for the next time I see them! I've been trying to get better at this for a WHILE now, and these 3 steps have by far given me the best results! I hope it helps you guys, too! :) Btw, do you guys feel like your memory is getting worse or is that just a me thing?

I know this isn’t a race, but if it was…. I’m winning 🥇🤷‍♂️

You know how they say that the thing that you're most scared of doing is the thing you most need to do? I recently experienced this. Basically, there was this girl and I told her I like her. Upon hearing this, she was not particularly excited and she politely explained that the feeling was not mutual. Big Fat L. Except, it didn't feel like an L at all. It felt like a big W. Because the moment I uttered the words "Julie (fake name), there's something I have to tell you…", I was suddenly teleported miles away from my comfort zone. And that's where growth takes place. Whether you're met with rejection or acceptance, that's out of your control. So think about the things in your life that you have been refusing to act on due to a fear of failure or rejection. Remember–it feels much better on the other side. Our wonderful founder Isaiah once said in a video, “rejection fades but regret lasts your entire life”. Embracing this mindset has made me a happier person and I think it will do the same for you.

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