I'm just a bit late to the game but hello everyone! My name is Santiago, and the social skill I want to work on is keeping a conversation going. I need to get better at utilizing the "yes, and" technique when I engage in conversations with new people. I find it difficult at times to engage with people especially if they talk about personal interests or aspects of their life that I know nothing about. If only a resource existed where a bold and strong chinned man took it upon himself to educate the masses on how to become better at conversation via YouTube. I wonder if such a mythical being exists 🤔

In this case that someone is me.

Wassup, my name is Alex and I’m a filthy lil mudblood from Canada/Korea. Been blessed to grow up allover the world: Japan, China, Indonesia, etc. (yes thou does speaketh these tongues but my Jap is very chopped) The social skill I want to improve is small talk, I genuinely find it so awkward. I like to play any and all sports, and I love music and cooking. Hyped to get to know y’all 🤙🏼

In any conversation there are subtle moments where the person you are talking to decides if to listen to you or not. They subconsciously look at how confident you are: your body language, tone of voice, eye contact (among many other things) and they decide: "this is someone worth listening to". That appearance of confidence can make or break a social interaction: whether that person you just met wants to be your friend, or if the girl says yes to going on a date with you. But if you focus on all these thousands of microexpressions that you making in every conversation, you'll probably go crazy. In my social journey, I've found a better way and its to focus internally. Our minds send signals to our body that echo what we truly believe. If you believe that your not worth listening to, your body will naturally mirror this (in your expressions, body language etc) and the person you're talking to will pick up on these and they will likely agree. But the flip side is also true! If you think you're a catch, you'll appear more like a catch and the person is more likely to thing so, if you think you're funny, they're more likely to laugh. If you truly think what you have something good to offer and interesting to say , it's going to trickle down into how confident you appear and people will believe you. But how do you develop this internal confidence? It starts with self-beliefs and these are 3 that have helped me to be myself, to do bold things in life, and seem confident while doing it. 1. "I will always be okay" - This helps me to take social risks because it lets me put aside the catastrophizing and "what-ifs" about social situations. It reminds me that even if people judge me or I say a joke and no one laughs or I bomb on stage that I will still be breathing and living and have people that love me - this has given me the freedom to live life more fully, to go up and talk to people, do public speaking, or ask out the girl. 2. "What I have to say is worth sharing, simply because I think it is" - Ever thought of a funny joke or something you wanted to say in conversation but talked yourself down? That's exactly what this mindset helps combat.

Hey , my name is David and I'm from Trinidad 🇹🇹. An introvert with some extroverted tendencies. The social skill I'm want to improve is body language awareness (gotta control my facial expressions 🫣) I like to try new teas ☕️