Last night the Brotherhood lads had a discussion on non-defensiveness, how it differs from assertiveness and why it can be more effective in various situations. We shared personal experiences, and looked at how this approach can work in different contexts, from personal relationships to professional settings. We explored: - Non-Defensiveness and Its Benefits - why it's better to NOT defend yourself - Understanding Defensiveness in Communication - how it looks and sounds when we get defensive - Defensive Emotions and Triggers - what feelings trigger us and what that tells us - Challenging Client Management Strategy - how non-defensive applied to managing the most difficult man I've ever met - Non-Defensiveness Discussion and Strategies - hot to play with this in real life conflicts Excellent conversation, and we'll probably do a follow-up to explore the technical how-to aspects in more detail. >> Click here for the recording and chat notes If you're not yet a VIP Brotherhood member, you can access the free 7 day trial to view the recording Cheers Dan

Just at a petrol station, filled up, was aware of some toxic masculine push n shove over the other side of the fore court. I thought not much of it, except to keep away from it. I react badly to male ego battling around me. But loo and behind, I decided to go to tge loo, was almost at tge door and one of the aforementioned said wgo blokes wiped in, pushed oadt me and shut the door in my face. I was fuckibg gobsmacked .... I walked back out , telling the teller what had happened. Tgen the red faced ego bloke comes up past me, and I decided not to do my normal wimp out, so I said to him, "you pushed in front of me". My clear honest assertion enabled my fear of aggressive men to subside, so I guess i more or less matched energies . This fuckbwit then proceeded to tell me I was wrong, I might have been walking to the drinks, he didn't see me, he told me I could think lies if I wanted. I just kept saying "you pushed in front of me" in the ole broken record. I was still a bit worried I might get fearful,or he might get angrier, but I knew my truth, said nothing but my truth as he over protested, justified,ghosted, etc, me . .. So pretty silly, fairly humorous, but for me a win of holding my truth, holding my honesty and not backing down

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Hey everyone My respect goes out to all the participants of October’s Social Circle Building 30 Day challenge. It started off light, but quickly got intense. There were amazing acts of bravery, heartwarming connections, and some unexpected results. And I was stoked to see you all supporting each other. (If you want to review the adventure, check out all the players’ posts in the thread here). In this email I will announce the winners and their prizes, and ask for your feedback about running a potential workshop on social confidence and social circle building. WINNERS Grand Prize: @Jason Stobart with 663 points wins - 4x private 1:1 coaching sessions with me (worth $2,600!) - 3-months’ free Brotherhood membership (worth $150) Jason’s bravery with facing rejections and humiliation, combined with his dedication to doing 90% of the activities gave him a firm lead. Congrats!! 2nd Place: @Dana R with 381 points wins - 1x private 1:1 coaching session (worth $650) - 2-months’ Brotherhood membership (worth $100) Dana demonstrated a willingness to try new things and take on a leadership role in her social life that has created real results. 3rd Place: @Aaron Frater with 119 points wins - 2-month Brotherhood membership (worth $100) I was stoked to see Aaron specialize in bringing friends together and creating deeper connections with people already in his life. People’s Choice Award (most supportive player): @Aaron Frater with 12 bonus points also wins - an Integrity Army T-shirt (worth $50) Participation prize: @Adargoma Shayonêh , @Prateek G , @Rutger Diergaarde , @Sid M , @Ernie Jamison , @Hemi Rainford , @Ryan Adams and @Jason Hipp all got points on the board and will get

My Son turned 16 yesterday. He lives only down the road from me. He doesn't reply to my simple messages. I stopped communicating with the mother a year ago because she doesn't reply either unless she wants to have a go at me. That's what it feels like. He was busy yesterday so today I cooked and baked and bought a cake, thinking he'll come up once he's finished what he's doing. Even though messages to get clarity on that were met once again with nothing. I thought to myself, all I can do is do my best for the things I can control and not get angry because of my pain from how I feel they're treating me, and get sad and want to throw the towel in and do nothing. That wouldn't be fair on him because he's just a teenager, a child. So I have to be the adult and still be there for my Son and not try to control what I assume is going on outside of me. I have a feeling this all stems from the mother's pain if any, she has with me. And also my lack of boundaries and lack of asking for respect and showing that I at least mean something to myself. I messaged the mother tonight and she said no he's not coming. I don't want to reply to her and get more sad. This has been going on for ages but getting gradually worse and worse. No cooperation at all. I feel like going away and pretending they don't exist anymore.