Hi @Chris Grieder & community! I'm working through 2 issues right now (which may have related answers) but I'm a bit stumped on how to redirect my thoughts, emotions, and ways I talk about this, so I'm hoping the community can help. Heads up - there may be language that seems negative. Part of it is to try to describe what's happened, but I hope it's not too distracting to those who are able to see the positive reframes easier than me right now! The first matter is that I really need new glasses and some important dental work done. My eye prescription is a bit extreme and worses every year. The prescription strength, typically makes the lenses very expensive even with insurance, which I don't currently have. Because of that, I've made glasses that are about 8-9 years work to prioritize contacts and as I hadn't been able to upgrade both every year. However, now the lenses are so scratched up and the prescription is so off, I believe it's affecting my eye sight at rest and with my correct prescription contacts so I need to get them replaced. I estimate this will be around $800. Regarding dental work, there's been some tenderness that's growing, and I already know the previous estimated costs as they told me last year the amount of work I needed to be done. For both my eye and dental care to be completed, it will be in the thousands, which I don't currently have. I'd love to be able to manifest these treatments, the income to be able to pay for them, a supernatural healing, or anything else that would resolve this, but like I said in the intro, I am so stumped on where to go with this as my current positive affirmations and attempts to manifest are not working. I know the focus wheel is one of the main tools taught, but also haven't been able to see if or how to apply it to this if it fits. Any help that could be given to move this forward would be so appreciated!! The second matter is similar to this because I think for both of these, I spend a lot of time trying to think about how to solve them, manifest more money for them, and doing a lot of damage control around feelings of lack and not having them yet (but they still persist). But the second matter is around some shopping needs I have. I'm currently moving between two households and wanting to duplicate some of my basic essentials to be available in the second one so I'm not always having to pack up so much in between. SImilarly, in my main household, there are some clothing items I need to replace (they are either non-existent of have holes in them) and also some beauty empties that are coming up. I have the carts full of what I need and find myself frequently coming back to the carts, ruminating about them and how good it's going to feel when I'm able to buy the items within and also sad I can't just check them out right now. That's why I said in the title that it feels more like yearning because I feel very without them and sad because they are needs. I've tried gratitude practices, but it is very hard to stay in this energy I'm finding 😭😭 So again, any directions on what tools to use or how to reframe this matter as well would be so awesome and appreciated.

I came across this very simple but effective exercise, I really enjoyed it and will probably be doing it a few minutes every day! Seems like a great way to connect more with your self love and worth. Figure I’d share it for anyone who might want to check it out!

I will often get into moments where I will go online shopping online, add things to my cart, and come back to it now and then. I then do it with other stores until I have done a giant shopping spree, but I don't check out because my bank account doesn't match the balance. I don't even realize when I'm doing it sometimes. I know it's a stress response but I know also it can happen when I've been living in restriction due to my budget and wanting to treat myself. I often do as well, but my question is how can I do this habit without it being in an energy of, "Man, I really *want* these things," and having thoughts like, "I wish I had this amount" or visualizing the day I can easily check out thousands of dollars worth of items without a blink of an eye. The second one is closer to where I think the answer is (visualizing when this is no big deal and common place). But something about the way I'm doing it still feels like the energy is far away or in "one-day" land just outside of my reach. I think there's a lot of my life that I live visualizing what I want, but has that energy of one day/ just barely outside of my reach - So close to where it feels tangible but also it doesn't ever materialize. I'm totally open to feedback! @Chris Grieder

Hi all, Would love some support on this thinking cycle and focus wheel tool. I didn't expect this situation to be the one I needed the most support with coming into this program. I thought it would be something sexier like money or travel... but it's the one I keep coming back to at the group calls - my coparenting relationship. There are two things that have occured to me: The first is: If I were to change my thinking and assume the best of my son's father to do the right thing, then it would ultimately be in my son's best interest. He'd have a better relationship with his father (should my thinking energetically influence his father's actions) and there'd be more peace. But letting go of that energy is really difficult. It's hard to not follow it up with disparaging thoughts like "He's not going to be able to sustain this," "This is only because his girlfriend is behind asking him to do this" "He is not really like this and he's going to fall through or disappoint Aiden" or "We are not friends and I cannot trust him to communicate openly with him," "His girlfriend is blocking this coparenting relationship (He has told me this was the case himself several times and the energy has definitely changed over the last year") I'm going to listen to @Chris Grieder's feedback to me about this again later today (I'm traveling now). But I told @Jeff Palmer in the chat, "I want to want to think differently," but it's hard. The other part of this that I didn't think I was going to share more about, but I think it's what's really influencing this, is the ongoing court case regarding this relationship. As time has gone on the case gotten more contentious, I have had so much anxiety around it and worries about past messages or plots on his end being used against me. In the past, I have not allowed him or his actions to ever have this amount of emotional charge around me. He, nor this situation has ever been on my radar.

This may be a silly question, but when people ask how you're doing, how do you share and check in with them? If there is something that is a bit difficult going on, do you discuss it with a positive spin only and say what's you're manifesting to happen? Or do you talk about the details of it and try to say something positive in the end? Or do you just allow yourself to feel your feelings without bringing it around? These days, I do not share the nitty gritty always as I think sometimes it can come of very Eeyore-like. I'm not afraid of sharing my emotions, I just think sometimes it can really ruin the flow I'm in. Would love to hear what others have found and do for themselves!