Happy Tuesday, Rooted community. 🌿 Let’s talk about the thing nobody puts on the inspirational poster: what happens when you don’t feel like doing the practice. Tis morning I for some reason was not feeling my humming. I did it but my body was revisiting it. Not the day you forget. Not the day life genuinely gets in the way. The day you could do it—and you just… don’t want to. The walk feels pointless. The breath practice feels boring. The journaling feels like one more thing. Your body leans toward the phone, the scroll, the snack, the couch—toward anything that doesn’t ask something of you. Here’s what I want to say about that: this is the work. Not the days when practice feels nourishing and wise. Those are the reward. The work is the day you do it anyway—imperfectly, reluctantly, for three minutes instead of twenty—because you’re building something your nervous system can’t build in a single inspired session. Within the Neuro-Somatic Integration™ Framework, we say that regulation is capacity, not calm. And capacity is built the same way it’s built everywhere in nature: through repetition. Through rhythm. Through showing up again. Your nervous system doesn’t learn from one beautiful walk in the woods. It learns from the pattern of walking. The repeated experience of rhythm, breath, ground contact—that’s what rewires the stress response. That’s what builds the neural architecture of safety. And that architecture requires practice that outlasts motivation. The hard truth? Practice is never finished. There is no graduation day. 🌱 Micro-Practice The next time you notice the resistance—the pull away from the practice—don’t fight it. Just get smaller. One minute of breath instead of ten. A walk to the end of the block instead of around the neighborhood. Three conscious exhales before you pick up the phone. The size doesn’t matter. The showing up does. That’s how grooves become pathways. 💬 Drop into the comments: - What’s the practice you most resist—even though you know it helps? - What’s your version of “getting smaller” when motivation disappears? - Has there been a practice that started as a grind and eventually became something you actually look forward to? What shifted?

While Country is not my first genre, there are a few country artists that I love and Dolly Parton is at the top of that list. In the first song, Dolly & Ricky Van Shelton sing Rockin' Years. This is a lovely Sunday morning song that shares the joy and challenges of commitment and living life. Chris and I have been together 30 years and while we are not quite at the Rocking Chair phase yet, we are inching our way there. The second is Islands in the Stream with Kenny Rogers, another country artist I love. I am adding a second Dolly song because, well because I can! Do you have a favorite Dolly song? Or a song that is speaking to you this Sunday?

Happy weekend, Rooted community. 🌿 This came up in a team conversation last week and it landed for all of us—so we wanted to bring it here. There’s a real difference between self-care and self-indulgence—and there’s room for both in a well-regulated life. But it matters that we don’t confuse them. Self-care (and co-care) are the practices that build resilience. They help us sustain. They regulate our nervous system and expand our capacity over time. They often require intention and sometimes even discipline—going to bed on time, moving your body, having a hard conversation, spending time in nature, breathing with someone who holds space for you. Self-care is proactive. It’s what fills the cup so you can keep showing up—for yourself and for others. Self-indulgence is different. It’s the second glass of wine with friends. It’s the donut. It’s the Netflix binge. And here’s the thing—it’s not bad. We’re human. Pleasure is part of being alive. But self-indulgence comes at a cost. It feels good in the moment, and the return is short-lived. The key is knowing you’re choosing it. In fact, yesterday, after some good self-care (support group and 6-mile hike) I dropped on the couch and binged The Pit and I am glad I did it! When we choose to indulge intentionally—when we slow down, savor it, and enjoy it fully without telling ourselves a story that it’s “self-care”—something important happens: shame is far less likely to show up afterward. Shame thrives in the gap between what we tell ourselves and what we actually did. When we call indulgence “self-care,” we set ourselves up for that gap. But when we name it honestly—“I’m choosing this because it’s going to feel good right now, and I’m going to enjoy every bit of it”—we stay in relationship with ourselves. That’s regulation. That’s choice. 🌱 Weekend Micro-Practice Before you do the next thing that “feels good,” pause and ask yourself: - Is this building something in me—or giving me a break from something? - Am I choosing this with my eyes open? - Can I savor this fully, without needing to justify it later?

"Walk This Way" has fun evolutionary arc: 🎸 Aerosmith (1975) — The original, already funky at its core. Joe Perry has said the riff was directly inspired by New Orleans funk bands like the Meters, so that groove was always baked in from the start. 🎤 Run DMC feat. Aerosmith (1986) — This is one is a really important moments in music history, full stop. It didn't just remake a song — it genuinely bridged rock and hip-hop at a time when those worlds were very separate, and launched both acts back into the mainstream in a huge way. 🕺 Judith Hill's funky remake is the perfect next chapter for this song — she leans hard into those soul and funk roots that were always hiding inside it, and that powerhouse voice of hers doesn't just sing the song, it inhabits it. The full-body feel Judith brings has this rare ability to make you feel music in your chest before your brain even catches up. It's pretty remarkable that a riff Joe Perry came up with during a soundcheck in Honolulu in 1974, inspired by a Mel Brooks movie, has now traveled through rock, hip-hop and landed in the hands of one of the most soulful vocalists alive today.

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