Want to be free of old hurts? Give. forgiveness a try. Maybe you're not quite at that point, but maybe, just maybe, it's worth leaning into...just a little bit? You owe it to yourself and it is an act of self respect... Forgiveness gets talked about like it is some soft, floaty abtract idea, but psychologically it is a form of emotional agency..Freedom.. At its core, forgiveness is the process of releasing the emotional charge around a hurt so it stops taking up space in your mind and body. It does not mean forgetting, excusing or reconciling and it is not a free pass for bad behavior. Let's look at those statements again..."Forgiveness DOES NOT mean forgetting, excusing, or reconciling. It is NOT a free pass for bad behavior." Sometimes we worry that that's what forgiveness will do--that it will leave us vulnerable/open to being hurt again. That somehow acceptance of what has happened means that it they get a free pass... It is NOT that. A lil friendly reminder: forgiveness is for the person who carries the wound/hurt, not the one who created it (though, it can absolutely carry a ripple effect for the person that has done the offense and this can be kind of cool too!). You are the one living with the stress response, the rumination and the emotional hangover. Letting go is about clearing your nervous system and taking back energy that has been stuck in a ruminative cycle. It's living more empowered rather than enslaved to an emotion... I'll say it again--freedom. What Forgiveness Does for You 1. Reduces emotional load: Anger, resentment and rumination activate the stress system as if the wound is still happening. Forgiveness helps settle the nervous system and brings mental clarity. That's kinda cool, eh? 2. Restores agency: By choosing to forgive, you stop waiting for the other person to repair what they broke. You get to regain control of your narrative and your emotional energy. Don't fool yourself, emotional energy absolutely carries weight and can get heaaavy.

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I'm going to be just a little sassy for a quick second...I'm mainly speaking to myself here, but if this hits home for any of you, maybe that's okay too. "Stop shrinking to fit yesterday's version of you". One of the things that I really struggle with hearing is the phrase "This is just who I am".. Is it who we are or is it the habits that we've built over time that 'feel' ingrained? We often tie identity to the things to which we've habituated but does the need to then become our identity? Maybe, maybe not. (Also, a side note---I think that this month, more than any other months in the past, I've been challenged to really embrace challenges--this has been through conversations, through readings, through random IG reels (I guess that's not so random), through too many mediums to really ignore as mere coincidences. It's a call to action. If we don't embrace challenges willingly, challenges will find us and then the question will be: Are we in a place where we've built the warrior within to be able to handle it? ) A nod to @John D @John Kennedy @Dan 'Remmy' Stourac @LaTanya Carter @Ruth aka Grace Rose @Dr. Melissa Partaka @Steve Webb and Jesus who I can't tag (and to each one of you that have shared the challenges that you're taking on and your perseverance!!). One of the strongest findings in psychology is that our beliefs about ability influence how we behave, how we handle tough situations and also how we deal with setbacks. Carol Dweck (a short video below) has done research on the difference between how people handle situations. A fixed mindset sees abilities as static. A growth mindset sees abilities as skills that can change with effort, strategy, and support. The difference sounds simple, but it shifts everything about how we respond to challenge.