Glad to be working from home in this snow ❄️ Glad for resources available any time problems or feelings come up - for the emotional maturity to be easily able to pause and not jump into quick decisions due to emotions Glad for progress in sooo many areas and seeing how God really has my back and hears me!

As I was self-reflecting of mistakes I made raising my nephew and sisters over the years… I remembered a huge mistake I made which was overcompensating because I was feeling guilty about them having absent or toxic parent dynamics…or for many of you moms it could be “mom guilt” from an absent…but let me share what I’ve learned through my experience… Over-giving and over-doing for your kids often comes from love, guilt, fear, or a desire to protect them from discomfort, but when it becomes a pattern, it can quietly create long-term harm for both parent and child. Here’s why 👇 1. It weakens emotional resilience When kids are constantly rescued, soothed, or over-accommodated, they don’t get enough practice tolerating frustration, disappointment, or discomfort. Struggle is where coping skills are built. Without it, kids may grow into adults who feel easily overwhelmed or dysregulated. 2. It teaches entitlement instead of gratitude When everything is given without effort, being earned, boundaries, or contribution, children can unconsciously learn expectation rather than appreciation. This doesn’t mean being harsh, it means allowing age-appropriate responsibility and contribution. 3. It disrupts healthy boundaries Over-doing often leads to blurred roles where the parent becomes over-available, over-involved, or emotionally fused. Kids then struggle to learn independence, self-trust, and problem-solving because the parent is always stepping in. 4. It models self-abandonment Children learn more from what we model than what we say. When they see a parent constantly exhausted, depleted, or resentful from over-giving, they internalize that love equals self-sacrifice, and that their needs should come at the cost of others. 5. It can create anxiety in children Over-functioning parents often send the unspoken message: “The world isn’t safe unless I control everything.” Kids may then develop anxiety, insecurity, or fear of making mistakes because they haven’t been trusted to handle things on their own.

In the midst of my husband being upset with me this morning. I was able to remain calm and but he told me how the water pump for our house and tenants stopped working. So I prayed with him about it and scripted on it. He called me complaining the plumber hadn’t arrived yet and then 5 mins later while I was on the phone he arrived. I had scripted that we would get a discount and that we would pay something minimal. My husband said the plumber banged it a few times it started working and didn’t charge him. I was like we are so blessed and highly favored.

Im grateful my son is so thoughtful. I asked about an item earlier and he keep back with it today. He knows me so well. He thought if she’s asking about it she wants it. 😉😆 I was surprised because I didn’t ask for it. I can totally see he’ll be an attentive and thoughtful husband and father. 🤗

This video was shared by my mentor @Liliana Salazar this morning and I had to share with you ladies! So so good!