Purpose: A firm, neutral message for redirecting emotional, chaotic, or accusatory communication into structure and documentation — without feeding the drama. Option 1 — Redirect to the App (Strong & Neutral) “Hi, for clarity and consistency, I’m only responding to child-related communication that is calm, respectful, and on topic. If you need to discuss something, please send it through OFW in a concise, factual format so I can respond appropriately. I won’t engage in emotional conversations outside that structure.” Option 2 — When They Send a Chaotic Paragraph “I’m not able to respond meaningfully to messages written in this tone. If there’s a specific child-related issue that needs attention, please restate it calmly on OFW and I will respond.” Option 3 — When They Try to Pull You Into an Argument “I’m not available for argument or back-and-forth. If there’s a parenting decision to discuss, please present the information and the specific question on OFW.” Option 4 — When They Accuse, Blame, or Twist “I don’t engage with accusatory messages. If there’s a child-focused concern you’d like to address, please outline the facts and the request clearly in OFW. I’ll respond once the communication is appropriate.” Option 5 — When They Try to Control Your Time or Pressure You “I won’t respond to pressured or time-sensitive messages outside our agreed communication channels. Please send any necessary details through OFW so everything stays documented and clear.” Why this “Text My Ex” works: - It’s calm. - It’s unreactive. - It avoids JADEing (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain). - It documents your reasonable behavior. - It forces them into structure or exposes their refusal to communicate appropriately. - It reinforces the boundary without escalation.

Boundary: “I will not participate in conversations that create chaos, confusion, or emotional overwhelm. I only engage in communication that is calm, clear, and focused on our child’s needs.” What this means in practice: - I don’t match your urgency when it isn’t urgent. - I don’t respond to accusations, name-calling, or pressure. - I don’t stay in conversations that escalate instead of resolve. - I prioritize clarity over conflict, facts over feelings, and structure over chaos. - I treat communication like a business exchange — because co-parenting is one. Why this boundary matters: High-conflict co-parenting thrives on emotional reactions. Your job isn’t to fix their behavior — it’s to regulate your response. This boundary helps you: ✔ Protect your nervous system ✔ Reduce unnecessary back-and-forth ✔ Build a documented pattern of calm, reasonable communication ✔ Model emotional safety for the child ✔ Shift the power dynamic away from conflict and toward structure

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Boundary Focus: I don’t accept blame for things outside of my control. When co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, it’s common to be blamed for things you didn’t cause. Trauma can make this feel automatic, but it isn’t your truth. Using trauma-informed communication helps you protect your energy, model regulation, and stay child-focused. Here are 6 different approaches you can use depending on the situation: 1️⃣ Calm + Neutral Use this when you want to respond but keep the tone neutral. “I understand your concern. I want to focus on what I can responsibly address regarding our child. I’m not accepting blame for things outside of my control.” 2️⃣ Firm + Protective Use this when you need to set a clear line. “I’m only responding to matters that are within my responsibility. I will not engage in conversations assigning me blame for things I cannot control.” 3️⃣ Gentle + Disengaging Use this when you want to acknowledge the message but not escalate. “I hear your message, but I am not responsible for this situation. Please let’s keep our focus on [child’s name] and what we can do together for them.” 4️⃣ Redirect to Child-Focused Use this when they try to make it personal rather than parenting-focused. “I’m happy to discuss [child’s name]’s schedule or needs, but I won’t engage in conversations blaming me for adult matters.” 5️⃣ Pause + Self-Regulation Use this when you need to take time before responding. “I need to pause and review this before responding. I’ll get back to you about matters I can responsibly address.” 6️⃣ Court-Safe / Fact-Based Use this when you want to maintain a record or anticipate escalation. “For clarity: I am only responsible for decisions and actions within my parenting time and court orders. I will not engage in discussions assigning me blame for events outside my control.” 💡 Tip: When crafting your text: 1. Pause and notice your feelings. 2. Stay neutral or factual. 3. Keep the focus on what’s yours to address (usually child-related). 4. Avoid JADEing (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain) — it fuels conflict.