Creativity. Attention. Time. Energy. These are your internal resources, and every part of your life draws from them. Your health alone has multiple dimensions: • mental • physical • financial • spiritual • relational Each one requires some share of your C.A.T.E. Most of us are careful about how we spend money, but we’re often much less mindful about how we spend our internal resources. And just like with money, overspending in one area can leave other areas underfunded. For example.. You might pour all of your attention and energy into work… and suddenly your health or relationships start to suffer or you might spend too much time in entertainment and notice your growth slowing down. Some people seem naturally good at maintaining this balance. If you’re like me, you need a bit of structure. What works for me is a combination of: • my calendar • reminders • simple habit standards I aim to stick to my healthy habits most days of the week (3+ days). Things like: • how I eat • when I sleep • how much entertainment I consume • how much of my social time is heavy “service” to others • my level of physical activity • and my personal growth Nothing extreme.. just steady budgeting of my C.A.T.E. Over time, that consistency keeps my overall life healthier. I’m curious. How are you managing your internal resources these days? What tools or systems help you? What’s working well for you? if organizing this is something you’re struggling with, feel free to message me. I’m always happy to help people think through it.

I know I know you probably thought I was talking about romantically dating people from your friend group. I am not going there .. today anyway. When you are meeting up with people you see as romantic and erotic prospects the tendency is to try to impress them. Whether you are interested in a new spicy link up or looking for a long term relationship the urgency in locking them down often feels very real. When it comes to our friends there is a beautiful comfort in being able to do less. Sometimes this is wonderful. I would like to encourage you that it is worth it to make plans that are more robust. Be curious and try to make an effort it helps your friends feel valued and seen. You can do this by flipping through the following ideas. 1. Plan something you think they would enjoy 2. Share an experience with them that you love 3. Plan something together that you both think would be enjoyable 4. Make time to do something that you know they need help with Yes catching up is great and needed. Simple hang outs are the stuff that friendships are built on. Every now and then it's nice to give more than just the pleasure of your company . If you have any ideas let me know below

You might think that's obvious. But I see it all the time. My clients friends and even myself get into the kind magical thinking where we feel like outcomes including a timeline are predictable. The only levers we have are our daily actions, discipline and practices. The difference is that I can - - call a friend - plan a cool date with my wife - workout - eat well - sleep on time - read - meditate What I can't guarantee is - a great meaningful conversation with a friend - that my wife will be in the right state of mind to enjoy the date and connect - my muscles will look the way I want them to - my body melting away the fat I want it to as quickly as I would like - I will feel amazing after a good night sleep - my brain remembering what I read - I will find peace, calm or clarity immediately afterwards This can be disheartening and lead to people quitting on a new habit. If this helps feel free to drop a comment re what habits you are going to keep working on and release yourself from trying to guarantee results.

This is not romance advice. These are the things i would say about any healthy relationship. Healthy relationships require structure I would break structure into standards, responsibility, the ability to repair and healthy communication. A lot of people try to model their relationships after the structure they see online or in movies. This doesn't work because *NEWSFLASH* at best the people online are showing you their highlight reel.. at worst like the movies what they are showing you doesn't exist it's meant to tantalize and or entertain. Structure is the framework which the people in the relationship agree to. There is no uniform structure that all friendships, families or romantic relationships can or will follow and work well. What I have seen work are a mixture of curiosity, vulnerability and mutual respect. Those traits will lead to actions that help relationships to succeed and thrive long term. They drive everything from the desire to see the other person do well to wanting to share fun or interesting experiences together. Lastly, comparing your relationships to other relationships or worse yet to imaginary ones is the root of a lot of bitterness and despair. It's funny one of the major things I share in all of my best relationships is the ability to laugh together. Even through the hard times. How are you planning to level up your relationships in the next month or season?

I've been thinking about this for the last bit What would be the first three things I would tell someone starting their finamcial investing journey to do? I came up with. 1. Get to understand your financial picture. What income, expenses, debts, benefits do you have? 2. Why are you investing? What's your goal or goals? 3. Are you leaving money on the table now? Either free money or money you are spending on stuff that you do not need or are not enjoying? Any other thoughts? Anyone want to have an investing chat?